Paul's Corner

Living in Vancouver all my life, Paul, I can tell you that pretty much EVERY brew pup there is great. I suggest you head to Granville Island, and if you have the time, check out Whistler, as well...if you want, I can give you the name of a great woman up there who plans all the events that happen in the village, and is "in the know" when it comes to great beer, as she is doing a beer and wine festival in a few weeks. If you DO happen to head to Whistler, I highly suggest you stop in Squamish, as they have a GREAT brew pub there, too. Turn left at the McDonald's, and follow the road all the way to the end, and there it is...the last building on the street. Very Canadian, and oh-so-good!
What do I value? So many things, but the first thing that popped into my head was my tattoos. I have 4 of them, and they all represent important themes in my life, like: love, growth, Canada, companionship, and self-worth. I value also the struggles that I have endured, as they have made me who I am - -that may sound cliche, but I can promise you that it isn't. When I graduated from university, I bought myself 2 pendants that I value above all of my material possessions. One says "If I am not I, then who will I be?", and the other says "We learn the rope of life by untying its knots" -- these 2 statemants are very much "me". I also value my friendships, as they are strong, enduring and giving...and that is what it is all about.

One more thing Paul - -if you have the urge to buy your wife some jewelry, I HIGHLY suggest you check out Blue Ruby on Robson Street - -very thought-provoking and creative things there! If you need to know anything else about Vancouver, let me know...its my city!!

Have a great time, and bring your raincoat!!
Byn.

Oh, sure, FLY off to BC and leave us philosophizing THAT one...some sense of humour, I tell ya...

I value my perception. That I am able to discern and SEE things as they are right off the bat makes things a HELL of a lot easier when deciding the best course of action to take. The "fact" that I SEE all things joined as One, makes it much easier to deal with, say, that idiot driver in front of me, or the neighbor who just won't keep her mouth shut about how she thinks "normal people" should be raising their kids. (Clothed while at a kiddie pool...honestly! They were 2 and 4!) That "knowing" (or my acceptance of that reality I guess) makes it easier for stuff to roll right off my back.

Motherhood and my health.
Nothing material, but I liked Byn's great words and reasons.

Hugs and have a great trip!
Dhi

Wow cool the latest Alex Proyas [Garage Days, The Crow, Dark City] movie that's starring Will Smith - lucky you! And you get to go to Canada...and to think they almost shot that film in Australia. I'm interest to know what a movement consultant is? I can guess but I can't quite picture it....+ you've got Will Smith a pretty good mover from what I've seen & a real cutie too :)

What do you value and why? hmmm I guess firstly time by myself...I enjoy alone time cos it gives me time to think & time to get to know yourself. That's why I don't mind taking the long bus ride to work. 2ndly I value being an aussie - I love our easy laid back style...I've travelled quite a bit & on my return I always think how lucky I am to live in Oz. I used to wish I lived in America [where my grandparents live] but now I have no such desire...Canada now seems more appealing perhaps I'll make the trek up there & do some work too. Enjoy your trip Paul! :)

I value Canada...take me with you boo hoo boo hoo.
I'm trying so hard to make my Canadian vacation a reality this year but there are blocks in my path at every turn..mostly financial. I will keep trying.
Ok. Truely I value my children. Themselves and the experiences they bring to me. I value my husband. Between the three of them nothing so aggravating has ever been so precious. I value my dog, my fish, my friends (both online and off) my job (add that to the aggravating list) and as for material objects I value my glucosamine and condroitin, with out them I would be miserable. I value nature, the sun, SPRING (if it would ever friggin get here and stay!) Lilacs, waterfalls, smiles from strangers, kisses, sand, I value Peter's and Tim's courage, Dhiana's depth, Momma Mil's lust for life, Katalina's joy, Paul's persistance, Byn's love of Canada. I'm sorry I could go on. I value life and everything in it, there that should do it.
Peace

Dhiana,
You value your perception? Good for you for recognizing it and believing in it. Too often we ignore it or let it falter.
Honour what you have that you can't touch, and you'll be a more complete person.
Cheers,
Byn.

Movement Consultant. Where will you find the time? You're life is taking off dude!!! There's such positive energy on this board...you can't hide from it. Plus I think, and I really think you MUST have made a VERY CORRECT choice in NEW AGENTS. Am I right? You seem to getting work in all kinds of different areas using your vast talents in all shapes and forms? How exciting is that? Growing every which way (except out) Can't do that..TFM is coming up. Congrats! Movement consultant? Is that like a consultant to a choreographer for stunts or something?
Good luck and have a blast on the trip.

What do I value and why? Peter's right you piss off to BC and leave us with that heavy one. Crikey! (did I get that right?)
Well I value my children foremost. I am 50% of the biological reason they are here and I am 100% glad they are. I value their insights, b/c they are so blunt and untainted this early on. I value PC, EA, my tap buddies and a few client/friends I have. The reason I value all of these people is because they give me a reason to live. They are continuously helping me figure how to reinvent myself, losing the ghosts from the pasts and taking each day singularly for it happy moments. Not putting too much strain on the future, b/c you can't predict it you just have to live it, so choose to live it happily. And that takes work for me and support.
I value the time I had with my mom. Maybe one day my children will hold me in the same high regard. I value friends. I don't consider myself as having any real friends here in Atlanta, but I value the concept. I have had a few friends in the past and I miss that true feeling of mutual trust, acceptance and happiness.
I value love. Without the intense richness of this feeling inside for others like my children and when they in turn return it, there is almost no reason to be here. But when my 5 year old comes up and just hangs an arm around my shoulder and says Dad..I want to ask you something..and I say what. He says I love you. Then a big hug will follow and he's off. He's not great with grammar yet.
Well mate, have a great trip don't forget aboutus and check in when you can. Did you take the family? How long will you be gone?

Tim

I value freedom in all forms. I value love. I value this community and the cool and kindhearted folks it's enabled me to meet. I value you and your journey Paul. We'll miss you. Have a good time and make those inevitable "connections". This is your time to fly. It looks like the cosmic mother bird has shoved you out of the nest!!!
Love,
Whit

Grandma Mil here, ditto to Whit's remarks...I value all of you, for your kindness, your generosity, your intelligence, your spirit,....and the list could go on...

I value, of course, my Ellie and the life we live in retirement, and our dear children and grandchildren near and far.

I did some sleuthing about "I, Robot."

It is a sci-fi American film, starring Will Smith and Bridget Monahan. (Ellie and I last saw in "The
Recruit" starring Al Pacino and Colin Farrell.)

The screenplay is based on a story by Issac Asminov, and the movie will be directed by Akiva Goldman, who directed "A Beautiful Mind."

Folks, our darling Paul is definitely in the big league where he belongs!! The film will be released in 2004, and as far as being a movement consultant, I am sure it will surely lead to other projects, right? If the film is a sci-fi action film, perhaps the special effects dept. needs Paul as a consultant! Yippee!!

Paul, Congratulations. Please excuse my ignorance, but what is "I Robot"?
I assume there's robots in there somewhere and your job is to make people move like robots do?
A common perception is that robots move in rapid, jerky movements. People seem to relate to this concept. Many very modern industrial robots are far smoother in their movement than the early jobs, and the movements are more synchronised in appearance, but yes, they do move extremely rapidly. I suppose if we're talking android types, then the movement should be more like a humans. Hmmmm, where's the balance point?

This sounds like a great opportunity for you. I sincerely wish that you have a terrific experience with it. Enjoy the local brew.

What do I value?
The perfect, unquestioning love of my children,
The sound of the rain on the roof before sunrise,
Autumn sun on my face during mid afternoon walks,
Some quiet moments that belong to me only,
The inspiration I draw from others,
The wisdom, understanding and love that I see in others,
My freedom to choose my own destiny,
My abilities to transcend,
My ability to protect myself,
My concept of optimism and hope,
My strength to forgive,
My thankfulness for all that I have.

Oh,...plus one or two old photos.

good thoughts on the board, paul. always provocative. glad to hear all's well.

hope everyone else is doing fine. i have been offered a backing vocals post in a band up here, which is cool. first gig at end of month. cross your fingers that my throat ignores my stomach's butterflies and doesn't close up on me.

i recently got an e-mail from my ex in iraq. he was interviewed about his current mission restablishing the education system there. if you're interested in it, please keep reading:

Capt. Brian Goldstein, who recently arrived in Iraq, is in charge of getting the higher-education system functioning. He ventured out into the city for the first time last week, accompanied by two Humvees and lots of weapons. He repeatedly got lost.

There are so few American soldiers, people are surprised to see them. Iraqis honked, smiled, scowled and gaped at the small convoy as it hunted for the University of Mosul. The entrance to the sprawling campus, home to 19 separate colleges, was finally located, and Goldstein jumped out in full battle regalia, 9 mm pistol strapped to his hip and automatic rifle in hand.

"Is there anyone here who helps run the university?" he asked the first person he met. "I want to see how we can help you."

Raad Akhmad Amin, the university's director of security, looked bewildered. But he was grateful for the offer. Most of the buildings had been ransacked, including the president's office. All but 15 of the school's 50 buses were missing. So were almost all of its 200 cars.

"We need someone to save the university," he said. "All of the students feel that their lives are finished."

After a brief tour and an exchange of phone numbers, Goldstein promised to return to meet with administrators the next day. "I didn't know what to expect," he said later. "This place could have been in flames, or there could have been students here."

But what he found encouraged him. "They've already got a committee together, to try to start classes again by May," he said. "That's a good sign. They're not afraid to do it."

-- despite my oppostition to the war and our occupation, i am pretty damn proud of him.

cheers.

Momma Mil,
We posted concurrently.
Thanks for the info on "I Robot". I didn't make the connection with the book at first.

Paul, I remember dancing to a song called "automatic lover", sometime around 1979-1980. It was a very different kind of disco song, themed around robots. Naturally my choreography (Hmmm, is that really a valid description?) was based on robotic style movements, which produced a very jerky visual effect under the strobing lights. This, combined with an unchanging, expressionless face (not at all like my normal one), produced a truly realistic effect, well, so I thought at the time.
The scary thing is that this is absolutely true!
So, if you need any tips, then let me know. Tell the producers that I'll galdly do it for free!
LOLOLOL (Tongue protruding through cheek).

Texas, I'm proud just to hear your story. It is about the best in humanity.

Paul, congratulations again! Enjoy Vancouver. (More about that below.) If you find yourself heading south to L.A. for whatever reason, you are still welcome to stay with us.

My husband may be on the verge of getting some industry work. It can't come soon enough!

Texas, that's a great story. Please give my thanks to Captain Goldstein. I'm still opposed to our invasion; but I am grateful to our military personnel for their bravery and dedication.

I'm with Whitney, Peter, Tim, Momma Mil, Dhiana, Innussiq, Mooke, and Byn on the list of values. No tattoos yet, but I like those pendants, Byn. I value quiet time and my skills in observing and perceiving, as well as other abilities. I adore my kids and hubby, family and friends (that includes ya'll). When I'm feeling overwhelmed and stressed because we're all running in so many directions, I have to remind myself that the frictions will pass, but the moments will never return. That's when I remind myself to slow down to savor each person and each moment.

Byn, I love your city. My husband has worked in Vancouver on at least two occasions. Stanley Park is beautiful. Granville Island is fun. We really enjoyed having breakfast at The Elbow Room on Davy (sp?) street. Allan thought their might be a microbrewery in Yaletown. I'd like the production to stay here; but I'd jump at the chance for another visit to BC.

Paul, as far as I can figure, the people who have, but won't give, have either never had to earn what they have or they are terrified to lose what they have because they don't think they can survive without it. (I would put in that category many of the richest 20% of the US population who hold more than 50% of the nation's wealth. In our financial disparity, we seem more like Brazil everyday.) People who don't have much are more likely to share because they know how happy THEY are when they're on the receiving end and because they've become more resourceful with the little they do have. They know what they need for real survival and what is superfluous.

So there ya' go. I value the poverty of my youth because I know what's important and what isn't.

Love ya'll. Mean it.

Diane

Diane, yes, tyhere is a brewery in Yaletown, and a good one at that! I think there are a couple, actually. The Elbow Room on Davie is a notoriously riotous place where you have to keep your ego at home and bring your dark sense of humour. I have often been told I should work there, so that may lend some insight into some aspects of my personality!!
All of these values are so beautiful and moving...makes me value logging on!
If you like those pendants, I got them at Blue Ruby....check out www.blueruby.com for more info if you like.
Byn.

Hey Paul..
Just one note...while you're out and about and busy as hell. When you check into your hotel at night, the holiday inn in nyc had internet connections for like a $1.00 for 3 minutes..
So hey...take 3 on us and tell us what your highs were one day or maybe two. We'd love to hear first hand while it's happening your adrenalin pumping and get that positive psyche coming through the lines from a man in the middle of doing what he loves. And as for Briget Monahan...god,she was so fucking hot in coyote ugly. Oh BABY.
Well cheers.

Tim

Grandma Mil I'm sure you meant written by Akiva Goldsman who won the oscar for Screenplay on A Beautiful Mind. What a coo for Alex Proyas to get such a great group of talent to work with. Another aussie director headed for huge things!

I, Robot Plot Summary: Based on the classic story collection by famed science fiction writer Isaac Asimov, "I, Robot" will concentrate on Detective Del Spooner [Will Smith], who, with the aid of psychologist, Dr. Susan Calvin [Bridget Moynahan], will investigate the death of Dr. Miles Hogenmiller, a brilliant scientist who worked at US Robotics. Initially labeled a suicide, Spooner has other ideas, convinced that a robot may have taken the doctor’s life. Isolated and eccentric, Dr. Hogenmiller appears as a hologram of himself, summoning Spooner to his side after his death. He was working on a very special project when his life was cut short. He had created something quite extraordinary – a robot with a living brain, code named “Sonny.”[Alan Tudyk from '28 Days'] Spooner goes to Hogenmiller’s boss, Dr. Lance Robertson, with his suspicions. Incensed that Spooner wants to charge one of his robots with murder, Dr. Robertson maintains Dr. Hogenmiller took his own life. Terribly weary, Robertson knows full well that the future of his company would be snuffed out should the press get wind of the idea that a robot would, under any circumstances, kill a human being.

Sounds good - I love sci thrillers! :>)

>>found this which might explain the need for a movement consultant: Will Smith's "partner" in I, Robot will be Sonny, the newest in a series of robots in the year 2050. Gentle yet strong, determined yet obedient, trim yet muscular but not beefy. Ethereal, thoughtful, soft-spoken and kind. Although a cyber-being of the future, he is VERY human. His movements are fluid, yet it’s apparent he’s not human.

>>Also read that shooting is to begin in May & that its set to be a 22 week shoot.

I value the fact that I am loved by my child, my honey and my friends and family. I am not wealthy but I am not poor. I have a decent size home and a car. The car and home are not things I value those are needs and means of survival.
I value that I can read and write and the ability to learn.
I am just happy that I can enjoy life around me and in some ways around the world. Ok I know I am goofy but like that cliche goes, if you got lemons make lemonade, so I value lemonade.
Mercedes

wow! what a thread! thanks to byn with the travel tips for m'curio...i'm copying them to my own travel folder...

laughing pretty good here pete, a 45.4 litre hat!!! thanks - i loved it and from now on i'm calling all 10 gal hats 45.4 litres!!!

good going m'curio and with that i'm outta here...later all

Diane,
I most wholeheartedly agree with "poverty of youth" teaching you what real value is.
This obviously extends beyond those things of true human value, even to those of purely economic considerations.
My own upbringing and the "parallel" upbringing of half-brothers in their natural family is a good case study.

Consider this:
I live in a comfortable, yet modestly sized house of about 25 squares. The house I grew up in was 8 squares.
My half brothers consider houses of around 70 - 80 squares to be comfortable.

In my first year of work, I earnt $52 per week.
My half brothers' family company paid them $1800 per week.

I guess there's a lesson there, huh?
Are the expectations different?
Incidentally, I consider myself to be "well off", certainly not wealthy, but well off a-plenty.

Dear Mooke,

Thanks for the correction about Akiva Goldsman and "A Beautiful Mind"..right picture, wrong occupation!

We appreciate the information on "I, Robot." It will be a big hit. Everyone (except some selected seniors of 70+) just love sci-fi, and Will Smith is a big mega star, so that's a road map to a mega hit. With Paul's contribution, Ellie and I will surely see it.

On Paul's thread, he mentioned that those who have do not give...it just happens that here in Florida this week, the Florida Philharmonic Orchestra has been disbanded, because of lack of funds. That opened a litany of lists of other regional orchestras around the country that also have folded.

No money for cultural events? Outrageous! No money for education, health care, the indigent, etc., etc., etc? Where did the surpluses of the 1990's go? Where are we headed?

Forbes Magazine has listed the 400 richest men in the world, net worth in the billions...most of them were young, 40ish, with fortunes made in the Internet boom. The interest from their collective incomes could run orchestras and selected countries for decades!

Where are Mr. Bush's rich cronies? We've learned that his tax cut is really trickle down economics that did not work during the Reagan Administration...the rich got the breaks, but that did not add anything to the economy. No jobs were created...the money was put into bank accounts for the preservation of future family fortunes..."the rich get richer and the poor get poorer...."

Remember, kids, when you get your tax refund, please don't spend it in one place!

Love you all,

Momma Mil

I value my Faith and my family, and the ability to value them in the open. I treasure the intangible things my parents'taught me-work hard, work smart, don't be afraid to learn, your money won't burn a hole in your pocket, you don't have to spend it. Think about others. Remember that each day is a gift. In the long run, relationships last, money and materials can be gone.
"There will often be someone who is prettier than you are, but if you are nice, there will not be anyone nicer."

I read "I, Robot" a million years ago. It will be good for Will Smith to do another serious role and of course, they have the king of movement helping them.

Have a good day! ( I am watching the bosse's dog, we have had storms and he gets really scared)

Paul, good luck & safe journey to Vancouver. How long are you out there?

I too value the love of my family, my husband (married 18 years on May 18th) and my wonderful son who never ceases to amaze me with his brilliance and wit. But what I value most at this moment is the time I have left with my mum. She's 79 in August and has breast cancer. We became really close after my dad died of oesophagus cancer in October 2001. After 56 years of marriage mum was devastated but we all rallied round and slowly she started to smile again. In January 2002 mum was told she had breast cancer. I was with her when she was given the diagnosis and her reaction was 'Oh well, I'll soon be reunited with your dad'. She was so strong and I came home and cried bucketfuls. Because of her age she decided not to have surgery but takes tamoxifen. She's doing fine, no ill-effects as yet, so dad will have to wait awhile! Our experiences over the last couple of years have brought us closer together. I love her to bits and can't imagine my life without her. She's a remarkable woman and I'm with her every step of the way.

Mary Ellen, I agree, we have to think of each day as a gift.

Went for an interview today, so fingers crossed.

Bye for now
Jean xx

Congratulations to you and your spouse, Jean. My thoughts and prayers for your mum, as well. Good luck on your interview!!!

Well put, Mary Ellen. And Momma Mil. (Bush and his administration scare me more everyday.)

Gotta run.

Jean,
The love that you and your Mum share is indeed precious. Your love and support must be a wonderful gift for her, too.
I hope that your Dad has to wait a good while.

Momma Mil,
I'm with you too. What is it that spins our wheels? Or more precisely, why do the very rich seem hell bent on becoming obscenely rich? Ego? fear of failure? It's certainly an obsession with some.
I'm stuffed if I know. What can you really buy with it?
How many houses, cars etc does any one person need? Me personally, I can only sleep in one house or drive one car at a time.
Seems bloody crazy to me. Perhaps I'm a bit simple.
When I was a kid, my parents had a big vegetable garden in their backyard. They always grew an excess, so we would take it all to the (other) poor people, so that they could feed their kids.
To me, that's something of value.

Mary Ellen, Are you really a million years old. Come on, you can't fool me.

Back to work.

Peter

Paul...All the best with the I, Robot gig. My husband has always been a huge of Isaac Asimov author of the robot series. I believe I, Robot was his first effort and he set the standard for the behavior of what we know as the modern robot. It will be interesting to see what spin you give this.

Yes, how clever of you to leave us to ponder values while you are away. This thread could go on for months!

High on the list for me are family, friends, stimulating conversation and having adventures great and small.

Still thinking, Linda

Congrats and good luck with "I,Robot" Paul!

Am currently pondering my values...obviosuly my family and friends, all of you here I value greatly, I value my health, my pussy cats, my lifestyle, my upbringing, I value almost everything. I truly value nature.
I'm gonna think on this one.
Hi to everyone! Hi Grandma! Hi Whit! Hi Tim! Hi Peter! Hi Katalina! Linda, Jean, Both Michelles and everyone else!!
Love to you all!
Han*
xxx

Dear Jean,

I send congratulations to you and your husband as you celebrate your 18th wedding anniversary. Each year is a hallmark, and may yours continue to be filled with love, devotion, and good health!

Your dear mother, I feel, is a fighter, and may very well rally...we're all in the hands of the Almighty...that's what our daughter in Israel reminds me, and she is practically at the source i
in Jerusalem! Our prayers are with you!

Jean, I am holding the May issue of Prevention Magazine that has the South Beach Diet in it, and when you're up to seeing it, just let me know, and I will mail it to you, my pleasure!

Peter, my love, are you near Sydney? My luck, probably not. A friend of mine has produced and is starring in a musical which open May 29th at the Zenith Theatre in Sydney. The show is called
"Romance/Romance", (who wouldn't like that..) and again, I wish Ellie and I could be flies on the wall opening night!

This young woman, named Victoria, is the administrator of ticketing at the Ensemble Theatre in Sydney. I met her via email and phone, for Ellie and I thought that we would go to Australia for our 50th anniversary trip and see Tara Morice in her play, opening at the Ensemble, and then tour Australia a bit.

Well, we never made that trip, but I have stayed in touch with Victoria, and I learned that she, like me, is involved in show biz (outside of her job at the Ensemble.)

This new musical is her first as producer, but not as an actress...I love talking to her on the phone..oh, that Aussie accent!

She just sent me some pictures of herself in costume, and they hang on my wall next to my computer, with pixs of Whit, Evelyn, and Princess Hannah, all stars in my room!

When are we going to have a gallery of pictures from everyone on PC? I bit the bullet, with help from Evelyn and Whit with the Follies pictures, so you know about me (who with some weight loss is slowly changing, thank goodness!) Is anyone out there willing? Soon Timbo will have pictures of his dance show. Come, on everyone, who will volunteer? (In the army, the first words of wisdom was NEVER volunteer!)

Have a great weekend everyone!

Peace and love,

Momma Mil

Good Morning, everyone! We are only supposed to have rain today-not tornadoes, but perhaps a flood or too. Spring in the Ozarks!
Jean, my family and I moved in to live with my mother after my father died-they had been married 56 years, also. She was angry that he went first, she had been sure that she would go first. We could do everything for her except be my father. We had a really wonderful time and her relationship with my child was a beautiful thing to see. I wouldn't trade that year for anything-even with the bad times. It's very humbling to start parenting a parent. You realize how hard a job that is, raising someone to adulthood and passing on something of substance. And how much of parenting is service-making sure one's needs are taken care of.

Millie, I think that I remember that Romance/Romance was on Broadway a long time ago with Scott Bakula in it. OOOh Baby!
We took press photos for the play and I will try to post them. I'll be the large, tall, blue striped female with a scarf.

I'm not really a million years old. It's been a very long time since I read "I, Robot". It was on the required list in a freshman college lit course I was taking.

Now, I must get to work.

Mary Ellen, thanks so much for the information on Romance/Romance! I went into the Internet (where else) and there it was. It only ran for 297 performaces from May 1988 to Jan. 1989, and yes, Scott Bacula did star.

The reason for the Romance slash Romance was because the setting is old Vienna, and then becomes the present in the Hamptons, with the main characters playing the then and the now...a nice premise. I hope my friend will fill the theatre, or at least break even!

We'd love to see you in your costume..let us know.

Momma Mil,
No, I'm around 110km (70 miles) from Sydney.
It's a 2 hr trip to the centre of the city.
I haven't been to the city centre for at least 2 years. Heck, the local movie theatre is 10 mins away, and I haven't been there for about a year either!
Sorry to disappoint.

Someday, someday....

In the meantime, avagoodweekend everyone.
It's Sunday here and I'm working, of course. Deadlines to meet. Oh well.

Have any Canadian folk seen Mr Mercurio wandering around over there? He'll be easy to spot. He's the one sitting in a microbrewery, with a big smile on his face! LOL

Hey guys!! Already been down to the Yaletown Brewing Company for an ale or two. Off to Grenville Island Brewing Co for a taste of their efforts and some dinner tonight.

Vancouver is lovely although we were shooting in a fairly seedy part of town last night and I walked home - mmmmmmmmmm - might not do that again!

Movement Co ordinator is my official title. I guess it means I am contributing and developing ideas for movement of certain characters in the film. (Peter got it pretty much right in his assumptions) I am going to be here a while and perhaps three times that long, wont know till I get back home. I will keep you all posted!

Tim I found an internet Cafe for $1.50 an hour so I can give you more than 3 minutes without breaking the bank!!!

What I value: every breath I take, every sight I see, every feeling I have. I value the ability to think and thereby make choices, I value my mistakes thereby leading to my successes. I value my friends for they allow me to measure who I am and how I am going as a person, I value their ability to support me when needed and to push me when I dont want to. I value the understand of giving and recieving - a balance which is crucial to our existence. I value love, joy and happiness and thereby that great gift that my family give to me - loving me. I value my childrens cuddles, their opinions, their discoveries, their joys and their fears - for I value the absolute trust they put in me. I value my wifes smile and her needs for both make me a better person than I would be without her. I value sharing with them in all thing.

I value me, my quiet times to ponder, my ability to create the moments I may bring a smile, a tear or just a thought to another kindred spirit.

I value communication for with out it we wouldnt have each other and without you I fear I would be somewhat less than I am now.

I could go on and on like I am sure we all could ultimately though I value love for with out love, living just wouldnt be as good.

Congratulations, Paul on the endeavors in Vancouver. But please do us all a favor, if filming in an undesirable part of town, don't walk home, specially alone. We really don't want you to become a statistic in the worst case scenario.
So much to think about, you always come up with the most intriguing questions at the most appropriate time.
I value being able to get up every morning, going to a job that right now drives me to distraction. I value my family and friends(few that they are) because they allow me to be who I am and have given up making me into someone else. (right now there is enough of me for 2, but I'm still working on it). I truly value my husband, who loves me just the way I am. But at the same time works with me to become a lesser person (size wise). I value my son, now 27, for becoming the wonderful young man I knew he would someday be. He gave his Step-Grandmother and her traveling companion a rose when he transported them to the Airport in NO on mother's day. I value his wife for a lot of his transformation.
I value this web site for allowing me to meet wonderful people with such diverse backgrounds and still feel a common thread. You are all wonderful.
It is a joy to read of all your activities, just like we were sitting together having a daily conversation. Tho I don't write much, I do read everything and respond only when I feel that I have something to contribute.
We all value Paul, without him we would have never all gotten together, to vent, encourage, advise and applaud everyone's effort to move thru this journey of Life.
Hope you all have a great weekend, we will be triming more trees preparing for the electricians on Monday.
Hugs all around,
Sherrlyn

Sherrlyn,
It's the size of that lovely big heart of yours that truly matters. The rest is just adornment and truly in the eyes of the beholder.

Paul,
Didn't bloody take ya long, did it!
I suppose as an overseas traveller, you have a duty and responsibility to visit ALL of the pubs around, just so that you don't make an inaccurate assessment. I'm pleased to hear you're taking such a responsible approach.

On the robot thing: this has intrigued me. I've given some thought to prevous media robots upon which to model movement. Here it is:

1. The robot in "The Day The Earth Stood Still":
No, too threating, too slow!
2. The robot in "Lost In Space": No, spins around too much, arms flailing wildy.
3. Astro Boy: Maybe, but would have to add sound effect: "eck ock, eck ock", with every step.
4. Robocop: Too stupid.
5. Mr Data in Star Trek TNG: Hmmm, a damn fine android, definitely worth a look!
6. The Terminator: Ah! On to something now, a tad cumbersome though.

Hope this helps. I think No 5 is the pick (not kidding).

Stay well and safe.

Peter

Hey Paul, great to hear you've got your priorities right by tracking down the local beer! Good to know everything's going well. Take care.

Thanks to Diane, Peter, Momma Mil, Mary Ellen for all your kind words, much appreciated.

Momma Mil, I'd love you to mail me the Prevention Magazine. Watched 'Calamity Jane' on tv yesterday. 'Secret Love', my favourite Doris Day song.

Celebrating 18 years of married life today, you get less time for murder! Seriously, much love to my hubby. Don't know what I'd do without him.

Bye for now
Jean xx

Dear Jean,

Here's my email address, send me your home address:

ellmill@gate.net

I'll send out the Prevention magazine. If you don't get it in England, you will enjoy it, for it gives other health tips.

Doris Day has always been one of my favorite actresses and singers. I loved "Secret Love" although I didn't like "Calamity Jane"...my favorite film of hers is "Love Me or Leave Me", and when she sings "Ten Cents a Dance" the audiences are mesmerized.

She's living in Carmel, California, and is almost 80 years old, and is an advocate for animal rights.

The newest movie here in the states is that stupid "Down With Love" with Ewan McGregor who is supposed to be the reincarnation of Rock Hudson, and the equally silly Renee Zellwager (SP?) who is supposed to be the reincarnation of Doris Day.

Having lived in the golden age of the cinema when stars were stars, this movie to me is a travesty and downright embarrassing. It is a cartoonish type of drivel, and the writers and directors must have been smoking something, or drinking something, and it wasn't Coopers!!!

When we got home from seeing this junk, I was tempted to put "Strictly Ballroom" on to sooth my savaged soul!

Paul, we're thinking of you...hope your job is wonderful, and hope you'll have lots to tell us when you get back home!

Love you all,

Momma Mil

Glad to hear you made it safely to BC. Sounds like things are going well. Do you attribute some of this surge in work with the change in agents? Seems to have made a difference. Are you going home at all during this production or will you be on-site the entire time?
Glad you didn't break the bank...knew you couldn't stay away from us that long.
Take care and enjoy every moment.
Momma Mil...I was so hoping down with love would be great. Iknew that was a take off on Doris. God I loved Doris Day in some of her old movies. Remember the one where she is found after 7 years and her husband is about to get remarried? Love that one. I like Ewan MacGregor is it really that bad? Damn.
Of course I haven't made it out to a film yet. Maybe soon. My friend Whit here has been helping me get through some really challenging times lately. It's amazing the people you meet here and what they ultimately end up becoming for you and to you.

Time to feed my face.

later
tim

Timbo, go see "Down With Love" and pay no heed to what I said. That is only my opinion! You may find it charming, alluring, clever, but I really doubt it!

Love you,

Momma Mil The Movie Maven

What do I value? Obviously many of the same things that others have already posted in this thread, such as my friends and family, for I truly can be myself around them without the fear of being judged unfairly (okay, mostly), while at the same time they offer constructive criticism, love, advice, support, motivation, models, guidance etc. and I think that this goes both ways.

I was leafing through my “pleasure writing note book” (part journal, part creative writing etc.) earlier today and back in December I did a mediation on choices focusing on the things I love, the things I value and the things I spend my money, time and energy on to see if the first two line up against the last three or not and I wrote things down (aside from the things above) as they surfaced during meditating over the course of several days. While I filled many pages, here are a few things / concepts that I value, combined with a few other things added in today: honesty, sincerity, trustworthiness; openness & open-mindedness; good advice; good exchange of ideas, heart to heart or soul to soul; spiritual connection/connectedness; fairness, non-judgmentalism, acceptance of others no matter what (though that’s a tough one); creativity; forgiveness & forgiving; life as a process with opportunities to improve, start over, try again; gentleness, nurturing of soul & spirit; selflessness combined with a healthy portion of knowing what I want and need; a good sense of humor and fun; caring and giving people, generosity; my instincts which I’m learning to listen to more often than I have in the past; a happy smile; I value the quiet moments, when in the midst of the whirlwind that so often is my life things become silent, focused, crystal clear & energy is replenished.

The why part of the question perhaps is a bit trickier, but the short answer is: because I hate the opposites of these things, because it is not how I want to be treated, nor how I want to treat others. I know in many ways these concepts are ideals to which I don’t live up to & least of all consistently, but they also motivate me, keep me from sticking my head in the sand wanting to give up. I love and value life with all its possibilities, and embrace the ups and the downs, for each experience I make enriches my life and my soul. The other thing I like about these concepts is their adaptability that they take on new meanings and potentials in each new situation; they evolve with me as I evolve with them.

Paul, congratulations on this job! I hope you enjoy it, even though being apart from your wife and daughters must be tough. How are you holding up with that?

To Jean and your husband: congratulations on 18 years of marriage and may many more follow in which you share, grow, experience, nurture, love; and the best of health for your mother.

Diane, how is your friend in FL doing? How are you doing? Made any decision re. your job/business?

I need some sleep, have to be on campus by 7:30 am tomorrow. I’m volunteering to judge a part of a state wide high school German competition in the morning. I did this last year and had a blast, got to judge the folk dancing competition (as if I knew that much about it …) this year I got poetry recitation. Fun! Be well each and everyone of my dear friends here.

yep #5 - mr data - my fav too, pete...

later all

Evelyn, that notebook/journal idea is great. I esp. like the task you set for yourself comparing what you are DOING as opposed to who you are and what you WANT to be doing. (seeing where the dollars go is KEY in this one I found!). And how fun for your German judging job! (heeheehee...what, weren't up on the 2002 folkdancing standards for polksa and valtz? ;-)

Speaking of work and fun: My husband just graduated Sunday (yipee!) and is now looking at working at the summer camp where *I* used to work, just over the hill from our house. It's only in the mornings, he can take the two boys with him, and he has to teach three Ecology classes to 4 through 15 yr olds per day. I am so jealous I could just spit~but that's allright...having his smiley, "I'm content" energy in the house is going to be such a change from "HOLY shit I have 4 classes today, come home to fix the boiler, coach T-Ball, and then do scads of homework, AAHAHAAAHHH!!!!" He's much more calm today (we had a little celebration yesterday...with a local brewery's Pale Ale, hmmmm....) And he just stopped by with my little one on their way to the zoo. At least SOME of us are happy!

Paul, a word for ya..."TAXI!" Don't give anyone a chance to mess up that pretty face of yours, ok? (Ah, you're just another pretty face in the crowd, doesn't it just SUCK?) ;-)

Ok, me and my lip are leaving.
Ahoy~
Dhi

Thank you for asking about Bill, Evelyn. He's feeling better, although he still seems to believe that he's not worth fussing over. I keep reassuring him that he is worth every moment of my time and then some. It's an awkward transition — assuming the role of caretaking adult for a man whom I've always seen as a strong and capable father-figure. I wasn't able to do that for my dad, so in addition to acting in service to someone who has made a big difference in my life, I also have an opportunity to do for Bill what I couldn't do for dad. I have to add second chances to my list of values. Anyway, the next step is trying to arrange for an assisted living arrangement where he can enjoy the remainder of his life and not ever feel as though he is "inventoried". Also, I enjoyed reading your list of values.

Paul, my husband recommends you get a bicycle to help you get around town. Then on the weekends, you can take a spin around Stanley Park — maybe even take some of the cast with you. He and his fellow puppeteers used to do that, sometimes even at 11:00 p.m., and they loved it. Allan actually left his bike up there with a Canadian co-worker. If it's still available and adjustable (Allan is 6'2".); he'd be happy to loan it to you. Let us know. Hope you're still enjoying the city.

Hugs to you and your family, Paul, and to all of my fellow posters. Have a lovely day!

Diane

Ahhhh Mr. Data...and his visionquest for a sense of humor! LOL A terrific model, indeed. I'm with you Peter, bluedog!

what i value:
love of learning (neverending), self improvement; living life to the fullest in the moment; making plans and dreams with loved ones; sharing feelings; connecting with others; good conversations; a story of a life unfolded before an avid listener; seeing a soul truly, deeply in all of it's light and beauty reflected in action or a smile or a kind word/deed, or in gentle, compassionate eyes or brought out slowly over time in friendship and love; figuring out a loved one's interests and passions and remembering and encouraging them; teaching a young person or just being there for them in whatever need they have to help them be, to help them grow, to help them learn and to help them help themselves and others; learning how to grow something from a seedling into maturity; dancing or singing for joy and losing oneself in the music(external and internal); trying something interesting and new for the first time; the lessons & blessings of yesterday, the amazing wonder and awareness of today, and the promise and hope for renewal and potential attainment held in tomorrow; a somewhat free country and world to live in - the good and right in all people -persevering and overcoming the many difficult obstacles; a world becoming smaller thanks to places like this, and terrific, kindhearted, beautiful and interesting people such as those frequenting the PC...i could go on, but this is a start.

Hugs to Paul
Hugs to the PC

Latteluv,
Katalina

Diane, did the walk around Stanley Park yesterday - lovely but perhaps Ive been sitting behind a desk for too long as I must admit to pulling up a little lame. Walked from the hotel down to the start of the walk. Did the walk then continued on to Yaletown for an ale or three then back through town and down Robson in search of food and then back to the hotel.

I'm ready to start the rehearsal now - the jet lag is hanging around too - no beer and early to bed tonight!!

Tim when is your show??? Enjoy if I dont get to type to you before then. Or if Ive missed it how was it?

Tim's tap review is on the 31st.

Glad to hear you're having such a good time.
Whitney

Hey Paul,
Glad to see you're getting to know my 'little' city better! Try Lighthouse Park for a nice walk, too, if you have the time.
As for the seedy parts of town - keep away as much as possible. Sadly, Vancouver is home to one of the worst depressed areas in the developed world. Stick to Robson, and the like.
Trust me though...head to Squamish! You'll like it.
Best of luck to you, and get home safe.

One more thing I value: My driver's license. To me, it means freedom. I waited until I was 21 to get it, and if I had to do it all again, I would get it as soon as I turned 16.

That's all for now. Heading to Vancouver on Tuesday to attend my university convocation ceremony and pick up my degree! I am so, so excited, and I plan on making quite the spectacle of myself when I walk across the stage. (Last time I was on stage was to peform "The Vagina Monologues", and I really miss it. It's got a draw, hasn't it?)

Talk to you all soon!!

Byn.

Paul, the jet lag is a real killer, isn't it? I was in a fog for about a week once we arrived in Australia from L.A. Couldn't sleep at all on the flights to London (again, from L.A.) and walked through Oxford like one of the living dead. Robson's a fun street. I'm glad you're enjoying yourself. Stay safe.

Byn, congratulations to you and have a blast at your ceremony!

Katalina, thanks for your values list. As I read each person's list, I image printing it and hanging it. I think it will have to become a scroll like the Torah.

Well, I'm off to finish my work for tomorrow's commission meeting. I'm looking forward to a lower tension level on Wednesday.

Paul...It's nice to think of you on this side of the Pacific! Your new agent seems to be really working it for you.

Off to Chicago for only the day to work with a client. It seems like I am on the train all day - which I am!

Sweet dreams to the Corner, Linda

Byn, congratulations on your graduation! You and Evelyn, wow, we are fortunate to have wonderful scholars among us! You've worked hard, and maybe it's time to celebrate...Paul would say raise the Coopers, (but not too many.) What are your plans for the future??

Everyone, I have, to date, (May 20th) lost 13 1/2
lbs. I started April 21. My cholesterol was 245 then, and last week it was 174. TADA!!

I've been going to the ladies's workout room every day, thanks to the influence of Whitney and my daughters. I am also on the high protein, lo carb diet, (The South Beach Diet, not Akins.)

I have always proclaimed that the thin me is somewhere inside, just waiting to jump out!!

Paul, take care, feel good, enjoy your work. Ellie and I had to buy a new TV yesterday, for the old one just gave out. The color was so marvelous on the new TV that I took "Strictly Ballroom" and watched it on the DVD, and it was amazing...it was so visually brillant, it was like watching it for the very first time! Even Fran's pimples were more prominent! (How'd they do that???)

Love and peace,

Momma Mil

Way to go, Momma Mil! Looks like I'll have to get my rear in gear to catch up with you, especially on the cholesterol number. Good show!

Diane

Momma Mil - good for you for getting healthy, sounds like you are working hard and feeling great. Good for you!
My plans for the future, well....that's a tough one. I WANT to have my own private practice as a counselor, but that is a little ways off yet. I am hoping to get on with the school board here, or the provincial government, to at least start off in a counseling position somewhere.
As for the moment, we are furiously getting ready for our July 5th wedding, as we are getting hitched in the backyard, and the previous owners of our 'new' home had no idea how to garden or plant...OR WEED!! (Who plants 4 different trees in a one-foot space anyway?) It is going really well, and this weekend we will put in the new deck and paint the garage.
I took a day off on Thursday (my birthday) and ate treats and watched "Strictly Ballroom"....it was a nice gift to myself.
Alright, off to pack for Vancouver, and I must take the dog for a run, since it has stopped snowing! Yes, we have been getting snow for the past couple of days here....yipes!

Best to you all,
Byn.

Byn congratulations to you too both for graduating, getting married soon and getting a garden in order!!!! Great job! How the heck did you do all that??? Have fun at your convocation ceremony, just try not to fall on the stage, that would be a bit too embarassing, don't you think? That was my goal anyway and I succeeded despite the fact that I twisted my ankle the day before and decided to wear heals anyway, thus found walking in heals on a slippery stage a challenge ... :-) Also a belated happy birthday to you.

Dhiana congrats to your husband as well. So what's the next step for you guys?

Diane, I like second chances too. They are great and I'm glad you are getting this one to help out a friend.

Way to go grandma! I'm looking forward to meeting the "thin you" that you know is somewhere in you. Great attitude and keep it up. I'm trying to get back into the swing of things as well. Got a little sidetracked when Mum was here. And I totally know what you mean about how brilliant things look in new "toys", I see it on the computer screen of my new laptop. Absolutely amazing!

Katalina, great list. Are things slowing down for you now that the academic year is over/winding down?

I hate jet lag too, but isn't it easier to shake it off if it's very close to 24 hours, i.e. very close to your normal biorhythms, or is that just my imagination? Glad you are enjoying Vancouver as much as you seem to be doing.

Love to all, Evelyn

Hi Evelyn: nope, things are actually about to pick up. Our academic year begins July 1, 2003 with our new fellows coming on board and our old ones graduating this May. But our research grant writing and competitive renewal process is ongoing, as is budget/fiscal stuff and payroll/personnel ....it's fun, fun, fun! Tee heeeeeee. No I'm grateful to have this job, to be in this environment. It's interesting and motivating. However, I get to take a week off for summer break, 2nd week in June. Thank goodness! I'm exhausted. And you my dear?....LOL

Hey...do you know it's unbelievable that our Paul is on the Pacific West Coast, only 2 hours away?
Glad he's enjoying Vancouver. I like that city. I love the area he's talking about too. I like the park and the marina and that nicer part of town. There are some cool shops down on Robson..oh and I love Vancouver's Chinatown. Yumm yumm!

Paul: let us know about the pubs you find that you enjoy, and please pass it along, for those of us who may try and follow your brewpub journey up there at some point, that is if the lines at the border ever lighten up!! LOL

Hi Inn!! Hi Whitney!! Hi Diane! Hi Tim, Hi Peter, bluedog. Hi to all at PC today.

Sending a whole latteLOVE (vrrrrrrum),
a whole latteLove (vrrrrrrrrum)
(ok..echoes of Zepplin...lol)

:) Katalina, coffeebeana, meanmachina

Please excuse me while I rant. I'm trying to sort through my anger and anxiety and I thought I'd put it out there for your thoughts.

Everyday, I read about or hear about or experience some of the evil and chaos in our world and I find that it takes a certain amount of discipline to stay the course in life. I think we're undergoing such an awful transition in this country because too many people have decided that they can't win and they're giving up the fight. Meanwhile, the people who have been fighting the good fight for years are burning out or being burned because those who stood with them are walking away or running scared. Who will be left to fight?

The reason I'm going on about this is because my commission meetings last night were incredibly frustrating, especially the second meeting which was a joint session with the council.

In the first meeting (a public session, with no public present), some of my fellow commissioners implied that when a rule doesn't work for them, they'd just as soon break it, because as one stated, "It's easier to ask forgiveness than it is to ask permission." (Hmmm. Maybe we should have just given a wink and a nod to the applicant whose request we turned down and then put him on the agenda to ask for our forgiveness when he violated our codes by going ahead with his project.)

For the joint session, I spent 30 hours reading, analyzing and formulating questions with the expectation that I would get at least some answers on a critical issue. Instead, I was silenced (in a patronizing way, I might add) before I could get an answer to the first of many questions. I don't normally see conspiracies everywhere; but in this case, there are billions of dollars riding on the question and it appears that there are a lot of people working overtime to hide the truth. Watch the movie "Chinatown" and you'll know what I'm talking about.

The added frustration is that while I'm busy focusing on one or two important things, I'm not able take care of others. I can't do it all and I know that. I have to console myself with the belief that everything I do, that I know to be true and right, will contribute to the world regardless of the final outcome which is beyond my control. Still, I'm saddened today, as I flip through the paper and see more examples of outright corruption and neglect that go unchallenged.

I don't know how I'll manage to start a business in this town when I may have to seek permissions from the very people I have to challenge. Maybe I should make it clear now that I don't back down. I'll just hang one of those yellow caution diamond-shaped signs in my car — you know, the ones that say things like "Baby on Board". Only mine will read "Malcontent Behind the Wheel." Yeh, that oughta scare 'em.

Thanks for allowing me to rant.

Diane

ANYTIME DARLIN ANYTIME.
God knows I've done my share of downloading.
5 year old graduates from pre-k tonight. Our recital is next Saturday night (31st). Whit said she may come see us. That ought to be a trip.
Hope everyone is doing well.
I'm having a fairly good day. Went to the Dr., internist, having some other types of issues, but I think we're all fine now. Used to in my 20's you couldn't drag my ass into a Dr's office if I was on deaths bed, and some days I was between the alcohol poisoning I'm sure I was experiencing and general dehydration. But now..man I just want to feel good.
Later guys.
peace and love to pc
Hope you're having a great time out there Paul. You know if I were in LA...I'd fly up and meet ya.
Later

Tim

Diane,
Speaking for myself; please feel free to spill you guts. I'm sorry that you're in this difficult situation. It sounds terribly frustrating.

It's certainly hard when your only option for progress is to tackle some issue head on.
It leaves you to ponder where the real value is.
Do you keep fighting the same battle with the same foe on the same ground? Do you attempt to shift the balance of power somehow? Do you effect a strategic withdrawal and make ready for a re-focused attack or employ a completely different strategy?

What price?

It's damn frustrating when, seemingly, your only option is to hit the resistance head on.
Is there really any other option, that is, even if it's way out somewhere where you hadn't really planned to go? What can you do?

I believe that if we give up striving for what we believe to be of value, then we fail ourselves, and we fail the whole of existence, at least to some degree. This doesn't necessarily mean that we throw ALL our energy relentlessly ALL the time, although, that can work sometimes. I guess we just need to know when to fight and when to walk, so that we can stay strong and do battle another day. And we also need to be sure that we are striving for something worthwhile, and hopefully acheivable.

It's generally the ones who try hardest and care the most that are hardest hit when failure is iminent, because we put so much of ouselves into our cause. But, I guess that's the key; that we are able accept that our progress is not always immediately apparent or recognisable, but we are making a difference nonetheless.

Hey, you thought you were ranting!

On a personal note, I've just learnt that my birth father's family in Dalmatia now have full knowledge of my existence, history and more recent personal experiences with my birth mother (not at all good). Apparently, they all have a favourable opinion of me and hold me in a high regard. Holy Moses! It's even said that I will be extremely welcome there. Gosh.
I'll have to visit there some day.
It's somewhat daunting, but I'm looking forward to it. Oh shit, I can't speak a word of Croatian!
Maybe I can draw pictures.

Hmmm, what would Mr Data do in this situation?
(Think about it.)

This is a perfect example of what my feeble brain produces when I've been working incessantly for umpteen days and I then have a few hours off. I'd better get back to work before I become dangerous!

Cheers to all from Downunder (including Paul).

Here's an email I got today...thought I'd share it.

AS I MATURE:

I've learned that you cannot make someone love you. All you can do is
stalk
them and hope they panic and give
in.

I've learned that no matter how much I care, some people are just
arseholes.

I've learned that it takes years to build up trust, and it only takes
suspicion,not proof, to destroy it.

I've learned that you can get by on charm for about fifteen minutes.
After
that,you'd better have a big
willie or huge boobs.

I've learned that you shouldn't compare yourself to others - they are
more
screwed up than you think.

I've learned that we are responsible for what we do, unless we are
celebrities.

I've learned that regardless of how hot and steamy a relationship is at
first,the passion fades, and there
had better be a lot of money to take its place.

I've learned that the people you care most about in life are taken from
you
too soon and all the less
important ones just never go away.

Pass this along to 5 friends...trust me, they'llappreciate it. Who
knows,
maybe something good will
happen.

If not...tough shit!

Cute enough maybe to pessimistic huh?

Tim

Tim and Peter, thanks for your feedback. Tim, I hope the results from your doctor visit show that you have every reason to feel healthy. I thought the "I've learned..." piece was fun. It would be pessimistic if it was truly nasty, but parody and satire make us laugh and keep our perspective, right?

I think you've hit on the dilemmas, Peter. Finding the right strategy for the moment and knowing when to stay or walk. For those of us who are always trying to improve ourselves and make a difference at whatever level — well, for me anyway, it seems that I'm forever wondering what I could have done better or if I gave up too soon. As Kenny Rogers sang, "You've got to know when to hold 'em; know when to fold 'em; know when to walk away; know when to run..." I've never felt particularly good at strategy. Guess it's time to develop that skill.

Croatia, huh? How wonderful to learn that you are loved from afar by family you've yet to meet. Do they make those electronic translators for Croatian? Maybe if you thumb nervously through a phrase book and stumble awkwardly through a few convoluted questions, when they stop laughing, they'll have pity on you and find someone who speaks English. I'm sure your family there are lovely; but I have to tell you that I know a Croatian, and she's the closest thing I've ever met to Cruella deVil. She lives in the U.S., so I guess it's safe to visit the Baltics now.

Hope you've had a fun day, Paul! Goodnight all!

Dear Diane,

Yep, I was thinking nuclear in "The China Syndrome", but also pollution as in "Erin Brokovitch."

Maybe those names would make good bumper stickers, but it sounds like those conspirators wouldn't have the smarts to know what they mean!

One could "plotz" from the aggravation! Easy does it, darling, truth will eventually prevail...think
"Watergate!" We love you...does that help?

Tim, it's almost tap time! We'll be thinking of you..take pictures!! I don't say "break a leg" because it has been known to happen! If Whit shows up, you will love her!

Peter, you're some terrific guy, so someone must have done something right...the Balkans? Just some
"exotic" place we recently heard about. Australia is what counts, dear mate, by kripy, and flat lizard!

Love,

Momma Mil

Yes, Momma Mil, the truth will out someday. I just hope we haven't gone too far before it does. Thanks for the love. (Yes, Balkans, not Baltics. Thanks for the correction.)

Diane

Hi all!
Sorry I haven't been around much, got exams at the moment. Hope you're all fandango and well? Paul, hope you're having a wonderful time!!! You deserve it hun!
I finish college forever tomorrow, argh! a bit scary, makes me feel grown up! Boooo! lol.
Tim-Hope the dancing is coming along good!!
Love to you all!
Hannah*
xxxxxx

Hey guys...Hannah sent this to me and I thought we all deserved it, because I'm glad you are all part of my "dash."

I'M GLAD YOU ARE IN MY DASH---
>>
>> I read of a man who stood to speak
>> At the funeral of a friend
>> He referred to the dates on her tombstone
>> From the beginning...to the end.
>>
>> He noted that first came her date of birth
>> And spoke the following date with tears,
>> But he said what mattered most of all
>> Was the dash between those years.
>> (1934-1998)
>>
>> For that dash represents all the time
>> That she spent alive on earth...
>> And now only those who loved her
>> Know what that little line is worth.
>>
>> For it matters not, how much we own;
>> The cars...the house...the cash,
>> What matters is how we live and love
>> And how we spend our dash.
>>
>> So think about this long and hard...
>> Are there things you'd like to change?
>> For you never know how much time is left,
>> That can still be rearranged.
>>
>> If we could just slow down enough
>> To consider what's true and real,
>> And always try to understand
>> The way other people feel.
>>
>> And be less quick to anger,
>> And show appreciation more
>> And love the people in our lives
>> Like we've never loved before.
>>
>> If we treat each other with respect,
>> And more often wear a smile..
>> Remembering that this special dash
>> May last only a little while.
>>
>> So, when your eulogy's being read
>> With your life's actions to rehash...
>> Would you be proud of the things they say
>> About how you spent your dash?

Love to all

tim

Hannah, hurraaaaaah!!! Congratulations and here's a big {{{squeeze}}} from me. I don't know about that bit about feeling like a grown up, though. My husband (who has taught our sons to PLAY with food at the table) and I say resist becoming a "grown up" in all but the most important aspects. Have fun, dear, and best wishes as you move forward!

Thanks for the poem, Tim. I'm also glad that you and Paul and Cat and the whole group here are a part of my dash.

Diane

Diane,
You have no idea how your post made me laugh!!!
Cruella deVille huh? Well, I can say without fear of correction that my birth mother is Cruella herself, with blonde hair. Millions of dollars, expensive clothes, flash car, HUGE house, psycopathic personality, ...it's all there. Filthy rich, totally self-absorbed and mad as a cut snake.
And now for the second piece of coincidence: the area my family comes from is - Dalmatia!
Yep, where the dogs come from.

A couple of years back I underwent surgery. They were wheeling me into the op theatre prep room, when I saw that the room had been splendidly painted out in the theme of "101 Dalmatians", (for the benefit of any children, no doubt).
I said to the theatre sister: "Oh, look at that!".
"Yes", she said. "101 Dalmatians".
I replied: "Yes, and now there's 102."
They all looked at me with a strangely puzzled expression.

Strategy is a pre-requesite to success. I only have so much that I can give. I need to be assured that my efforts are as effective as possible.

Momma Mil,
The Balkans has been there a long time, (apparently).Turn on the internet machine and check out the "Makarska Riviera", especially the town of Tucepi. It's where it all started for me. I was concieved there and my mother left for Australia about 3 weeks later. (she didn't realise that she wasn't alone!).
But to be honest, I wouldn't swap my life in Australia for anything.
(Don't they all say that?)

Tim, nice poem. Such true words. I'm glad you're in our dash too, mate!! And what a dash it is!
I hope that all stays well for you.

Hannah, It's great to feel grown up (so I'm told).
Seriously though, the continually growing independence and excitement of things to come is something to never forget. Congratulations on finishing college.

Work now, by crikey;

Peter

So sorry to forget to congratulate you Hannah. The beginning of a new era. May it be filled with splendid events and loves and successes. And for those unexpected but to be expected falls may you land on great big overstuffed down pillows. If I knew what I knew now and was graduating from college this June. WOW The Timmer would go down a completely different path. BUT would I really be a different man? Would things have turned out better or is it just fate? But for someone like you that seems so together and ready to take life on I think you'll do fine. Take it slow and relish these next couple of years. They will go by way to quickly and you'll be making some very very important choices.
And thank you for the poem.As you can see I shared it here, but I'm glad you and everyone at PC are in my dash. It wouldn't be ok if you weren't.
love to all
tim

Diane, sorry you are in such a frustrating experience. Here’s a big {{{{{hug}}}}} for you. You are too kind a soul to be trampled on like that! One of the first things that popped into my head was “if you are going to let these board members/commissioners stop you from starting your own business, they already won” Do you want to give them that much power over you? Mind you, I don’t know how this all works and how many obstacles you would run into, but just a spontaneous gut feeling reaction from me. I think I’ll leave it at that. My own thoughts are rather confused on such issues at the moment, different context though.

Peter, your thoughts “Do you keep fighting the same battle with the same foe on the same ground? Do you attempt to shift the balance of power somehow? Do you effect a strategic withdrawal and make ready for a re-focused attack or employ a completely different strategy?
What price?” are interesting. Somehow the strategic withdrawal to make ready for a re-focused attack is resonating with me … I’ll contemplate that one to figure out what that means for me. Thanks for putting this thought into my head.
I hear Dalmatia is nice and you can always learn Croatian in your non-existing spare time, right? It would probably completely impress and shock your family (in the good way).

Hannah, congratulations on finishing college! I’m very proud of you and wish you the very best as you move on. I hope it’s to something good and I hope you find your way and don’t fall in that TEMPORARY!!!! void I just fell in. This switch from being a student [for way too long (I think it’s been 27 years since first grade …)] and having that keep me very busy to almost nothing right now and not knowing what exactly will come next is in some way tougher than I thought but at the same time not as tough. I have so many mixed feelings right now about so many things, it’s driving me nuts. But there is also the excitement to see what will come next … I guess I’m the pendulum that swings back and forth. Enjoy the good feelings that come with your accomplishment and take them for a spin and see where you land.

So Katalina, to answer your question, things have slowed down too radically for me. I’m still copy editing my dissertation, but I think I will finish that this weekend. Then I have one more week that I am allowed to work and then it’s all up in the air and up to the BCIS (formerly INS) if they grant me a work permit and also up to the universe or someone to give me a job (mind you I’ve done my part!), but can’t do any of this before mid July, so the BCIS told me as they won’t make a decision before then. Because of them I had to turn a job down in Boston, where I would have had to start at the latest in mid June. ;-( But I will find fun projects to keep me from getting totally bored, I put some graduation pictures on my website and that was fun, I'll find more such projects, otherwise I'll come to you guys for suggestions :-) LOL

Tim, I wish I could come and see your show as well. Now I have the time, just not the money, and it’s a bit too long of a drive, esp. since I am still working next week. Rats! Have fun with it and I’ll just have to attend in spirit. Thanks for posting the “Dash-story” --good stuff!

Best wishes to all
Evelyn

- dashing in - thanks timmer for publishing hannah's poem

petey...you are one in a million, statisically that is...and you're one in a million on this board... googled "stiff man syndrome" - folks, he's one tough dude!!!

and congrats to hannah with the palindrome name - one stage of life completed and now onto another -exciting, isn't it? go strut your stuff!!

-dashing out-

here are a few more ----- later all

The answer is simple...you can't take it with you! Most of us forget we are just mortal and eventually we will have to part with all the material things of this world. The only thing we get to take with us is what we feel in our hearts and the feelings we have left in the hearts of those we leave behind. If we learn to share now it will not be so hard to leave this world later on.

Peace Mike

PS. I wish Paul all the best!