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Saturday, 21 February
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I've decided to trust the universe. So let me put it this way: I trust the universe Note: comments on old entries are closed. Please comment only on the current entry. Comments Very well put, Paul. You have such a good outlook on life and I admire the way you can pull yourself up, brush yourself off, and stand tall to face whatever comes next. There's something good waiting for you just around corner, only you haven't gotten that far yet... Sally C. Posted by: Sally C. on February 21, 2004 07:49 AMfrom IP: 172.136.77.160Damn, I'm running as fast as I can and yet it seems the faster I run the further away the corner becomes!! Posted by: Paul on February 21, 2004 07:52 AMfrom IP: 210.49.171.131Maybe I'm looking over my shoulder looking back at where I've been??!! Yep, mmmmm....time to look ahead! Oh by the way I am not nearly as brave as I may seem! Posted by: Paul on February 21, 2004 07:54 AMfrom IP: 210.49.171.131Hi PJM, Did you receive the gift from PC at the theater??? J. Posted by: Janice Duke on February 21, 2004 08:06 AMfrom IP: 24.184.222.224Hello everyone, Paul- Like sally said, very well put, you should be a writer as well. I'm on a writing team at my school but i'm really not that good! You're very braver than you think and so faithful, I wish I were that way, especially with certain things. Keep hoping and praying, with your determination i'm sure what you're looking for in your life will soon be right in front of you. Hope you all are doing well
And to think, that wonderful thing around the corner, the one Sally C forsees, is probably a result, in part, of something less wonderful from the past. In business they teach students that they have to experience failures to eventually achieve long-term success. It's purely statistical in a sense. Just like sales in your computer gig. I doubt that any of us are as brave as we try to appear, but I believe this group gives us support we need to be our bravest and I too draw encouragement from the Corner. Thank you again everyone for sharing your life journeys. Oh, I think you can slow down Paul. You're still a day ahead of most of us. Besides, you're in the flow right? You're exactly where you're supposed to be at every moment. Like when you met the brewers in Canada. It's all good. Watch as opportunities present themselves. I recommend writing out lists too. It helps me stay focused on my goals and take care of business. Good night, Paul, I wonder do you realise how powerful these words you wrote are? As a daily affirmation for any one of us involved in this life experience, they would be so effective. But coming from someone who has just been hit by a 'curved ball' from the universe in question, they carry a credibilty and an authentic inspiration that goes beyond just 'nice thoughts'. Whether you feel brave or not, one thing is for sure...you are inspiring those who read these words to be brave. These I am going to write down and remember. Thank you. Hope everyone in the Corner is doing well. I have just spent a wonderful few days visiting a very good friend, seeing new places and meeting lots of lovely new people. So much positive energy! It was just great. Hello Inn, I'm glad the injection is behind you and I really hope that you start to feel the effects of it working soon. And who knows, maybe this different opinion may lead to something good for you? I hope so. Tim, it's so good to hear you are feeling a bit better. Knowing what you're dealing with has to be a good thing. Hang in there with the medication. If they get the balance right, it will make such a difference. Tim, to me you are a courageous fighter and someone I would want in my corner in a long haul. Keep going and best of luck with the interview. Grandma Mil, sending lots of love to you. Whit and Julie are the lucky ones to have met you in person. We all know that! Hi Michelle! If the birds are chirping, there IS light at the end of the tunnel! Keep trusting in the inevitability of Spring. Hi Cara, I think you're very good at expressing yourself. I'd say you have the ability to make a very important contribution to the writing team in school. Don't underestimate yourself! Peter,I hope things are good for you. Janice, thanks for the blessings. I hope John is well. Dhiana, how did your trip go? Hello to Evelyn, Whit, Linda, Sally, Diane, Suzanne, Natalie, Nertha, Julie, Julia, Marge and everyone else - new and old! Love to you all - lots of it, Hello to all! Paul, good for you, facing things as they come along, maybe the reason for no corners is that it is a round object that deters your progress. Weather here can't make up it's mind, yesterday was an awful sand storm, today was clear but cool and maybe we will have a chance of rain by Monday. Good to see most everyone on an even keel today, hope the weekend goes as well. Inn: Did they give you the symptoms of an allergic reaction to the cortisone. I've had one shot in my left wrist and went on to work afterwards. Didn't realize anything was wrong until a nurse/customer asked if I was all right. Tim: I thought my concoction of Vitamins was a lot, but you have me beat and they are all pretty strong prescription drugs. Take care, and all will be better on Monday. Grandma Mil: Where are you in FL. I've forgotten, had a senior moment you know. We are heading for N.O. and the Tampa area in Dec. and will be in there a few days. To those I've missed, have a good weekend. I will be working on taxes at the office most of the weekend. I'm taking off next weekend for a 2 day woodworking class with DH out of town. We are looking forward to some play time for us. Hugs to all, Hi, another newbie here! I'm Jen, 17 years, Chinese Australian in my final year of high school in Sydney. We're studying SB in English (though Blade Runner was incredibly tempting for me, since I really like the book on which it's based), realised I'd forgotten how much I loved the movie (it's up there with Star Wars, Lord of the Rings and Pirates of the Caribbean - yes, I'm an Orlando Bloom fan, though I'd like to think I'm more about the acting than the looks, thank you very much), and I did a search for it online, so here I am! Paul...Oooh, I know these are trying time but get your agent back in gear. Now that you have got your groove back, there should lots of opportunities for you. Thinking good thoughts for you. Linda Posted by: Linda Thomas on February 22, 2004 01:13 AMfrom IP: 67.172.80.183Hello to all my beloved friends! I've missed you. Greetings to all the new folk! Paul, I was stunned to read your post about the show. Maybe this is a break for you to organize plans for the brewery while you get yourself out to other auditions. As always, I wish you and your family peace and joy. Tim, keep plugging away. I've known several people with bipolar disorder and it takes a lot of effort to balance the medications for best benefit. Hugs to you! Inn, I'm not entirely clear what's going on with your knee, but I hope the shot you received will be the beginning of a speedy recovery. For the most part, I've been busy with the business and other committments. As I told Michelle in an email a few days ago, it has been a great learning experience. I've had to do some internal work to overcome procrastination that was holding me back. That has lead me to the same conclusions that you express so beautifully in your poem, Paul. When I let the universe work for me, the pieces come together. Much more easily said than done; but once you take the first step, and the second, it gets easier and the path becomes more evident. These days I find myself increasingly grateful for each moment. Even as I wrote that last sentence, I found myself wincing. Maybe I should say I've been grateful for every lucid moment during the past two weeks. I'm now at day 11 of some sort of intestinal/gastric problem that has gotten progressively worse over time. As of Thursday, I've had blood tests, I'm on several medications and I'm scheduled for a CT scan and probably (yes, Millie) a colonoscopy and endoscopy. I guess the doctor suspects diverticulitis and possibly an ulcer. In the meantime, I'm just hoping to move beyond a liquid diet and get a little work done. In the midst of this, I received word Tuesday night from my oldest brother that my second oldest brother passed away in his sleep. Brian would have been 54 in two weeks, but he spent too many of those years in a pitched battle with G-d, the universe and especially himself. He couldn't get past the challenges in his life and his body gave up. I'll always remember him as a mischievous big brother with a good heart. Now I'm off to rest. I'll check back again soon. I promise. Love, Diane Dear Diane, We've missed you on PC, but now we know that you were "slightly" distracted. Condolences to you and your family on the loss of your brother, Brian. I'm glad you have such loving memories of him as your older brother. I hope the doctors find the cause of your discomfort, pronto! The colonoscopy or endoscopy will tell the true story, says Dr. Mil. Believe me, the preparation for these procedures is slightly unpleasant, moreso than the procedure itself. You'll do fine, I promise! Jen, you are most welcome into Paul's Corner! You have my permission to brag about us, for nowhere will you find such a close and loving group of people on the Internet. I suggest you go back into the "Archives" and catch up with all of us. We are an interesting group, single, married, some with small children, others with grown children, and some with grandchildren and even great-grandchildren...(that's me). Our group includes business people, artists, teachers, at home moms, and some show biz types, like Paul, Tim, and me. :) :)
This is not a chat-room concept, but probably the first of its kind on the Internet, so revel in the fact that you are a wonderful newbie here, and if your friends still doubt you, just tell them they'll have to answer to Grandma Mil! Love and Peace, Grandma Posted by: Grandma Mil on February 22, 2004 04:18 AMfrom IP: 67.75.94.15Diane, it's really good to hear from you. I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your brother and also to hear that you haven't been well yourself. It has been a challenging time for you lately and I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. Jen, Grandma Mil explained everything so beautifully that all I need to add is - you're very welcome! Love to Paul and to everyone, Hi Diane, Jen: Welcome. Mary: My John is feeling fine. Thanks. Timster: Take you meds!! Inn: Healing thoughts are sent to you. PJM: Elbows up, head high, feet moving forward!! Till next time PC. Loving all of you through your stressors. J. Posted by: Janice Duke on February 22, 2004 06:32 AMfrom IP: 24.184.222.224Diane, great to hear from you - yep you've been missed. I am sorry about your brother, sounds as though he trod a tough path. It also sounds like he had had enough and decided to slip away peacefully - too young but at peace non the less. I send my love and thoughts to you and your family. Jen, welcome and thnkyou for joining us here. Grandma Mil summed it up pretty well! We look forward to hearing more from and about you. Janice, yes and thank you!!!! They are exquisite and sit beautifully arranged in my dressing room. I have been spoilt by you guys. Thank you all for your letters and your cards and your gifts! I geuss once I leave the theatre you wont be able to send me anymore - but hey I have been spoilt enough!! Sharing this site is more than enough of a gift for me! Thank you once again! Mary thankyou also for your wonderful letter! I will put that in my special draw. Sometimes when things get a bit dark for me I will read these letters and be reminded of the light I have been able to shine and thereby the light that has been shone back upon me. Thank you. Posted by: Paul on February 22, 2004 09:47 AMfrom IP: 210.49.171.131Hey Paul Hi PJM, I received much help from Amy at the florist in Melbourne who called the theater to make sure the flowers were delivered when you were performing so the flowers would be the freshest. Know that she appreciates you too!! Perhaps when they wilt, you could press one of them into a book so it can remind you of us and how much we care. Till next time, Hey Paul, Hey all, I know it's been awhile. Paul, I have to know what the tatoo on your right ankle is!! Sorry about the tour, but I truley believe that everything happens for a reason and there's a reason this has ended for you. Maybe somewere in the not so distant future is an even greater opportunity just waiting for you that would not have been an option had you not just had the positive exerience of TFM. I really have to look at life that way. Otherwise I spend all my time trying to figure out "what I did wrong", "I should have been better", " I should have tried harder". It's a waste of time, I have found. There is enough negativity in the world already. Just think of all the opportunities just waiting for you!!!! They will find you. Have faith. I have got my "Paul" dvd collection pretty stocked, now. I am having trouble finding some of the Aussie works, though. But I have all of your US Works and a few of your Aussie ones. I had a picture of you as my desktop till my husband got jealous!! I haven't seen that side of him in a long time, I kinda enjoyed it!! I was going to leave it up but my 13 year old son lectured me about respect, so I took it down. (sometimes I hate it when our kids actually listen to what we teach them!!) Anyway, beleive in yourself and know you are better than you think. You will find work soon. I know you will. Tim...... my brother has struggled with Manic depressive for years. He was very violent for many years with a bad temper, as our dad was when we were growing up (alchahol). He struggled with many different forms of medication and combinations of medication. But know this, you have to be consistant and dedicated to making yourself well. Taking your meds on time and ALL THE TIME are the biggest key. Just know there are people that truely care for you. Make your decisions based on your love for yourself and the love other feel for you. YOUR DOING GREAT!!!! Keep up the hard work. Stay positive, always. And if you can't, come to the corner. Inn......I know all about those corrtesone shots. YUK! I stopped getting them. The shots were ok but I had alot of burning sensation "fire" and loss of mobility in my entire arm for hours after a shot. I ended up worse than I started. I am having SURGERY (AHH!!) on my shoulder in a few weeks. The pain has gotten just too bad. I have very little mobility in my left arm, but once i get it in postion i can pretty much work all day at the computer at work. I don't play too much at home anymore as it's just to much. Which is why you all have'nt heard from me. It's not cause I don't love you!!! I do!!! Diana...... So sorry about your brother..... Know that he is now one of your angles and is protecting you. I can't imagine the loss of a sibling. My heart is with you, and all of you that have experienced this. Paul included. I feel so much love for all my family that I am kind of a freak about the fear of losing it. I have to hug and kiss everyone and tell them I LOVE YOU before I leave them. EVERYONE I am so paranoid that if something happened, They wouldn't know I cared. It's my own fear,i know. But I have always been too lovey dovey. My family says that until I was born (I'm the baby of 4 kids much younger than my siblings) our family didn't show affection. They just didn't. no hugs, kisses, I love you's, nothing. The way my brother tells it, I couldn't walk across the room without kissing or hugging someone. I guess I am still the same way. I used to hold onto my dad around the neck till he told me he loved me. It would take a while but he would eventually give in! Now we all just say I LOVE YOU like it's everyday conversation, (IT IS ) They all say that was my purpose on this earth, was to do that. Now everyone's families are very affectionate and I guess that makes me feel pretty good! If I helped that at all. Anyway, sorry for the long post, Catching up, ya know. I will try to get back on before my surgery 3/16. Sorry for the long absence.
Diane, I'm so sorry about your brother. You have a sad path to walk as the pain of loss subsides. If you need help you know we will be here. Thanks for the concern about my leg. Hi PC, Inn: I'm glad you're doing better!! Kelly: Your name alone tells me you're going to be OK. In Celtic/Gaelic it means "female warrior/warrior woman." Soldier on, girl!! You will handle anything that comes your way. Timster: I'm counting on you to take your meds. Non-compliance is the greatest predictor of relapse with illness. Consistentcy is KEY to optimum sense of well being. I'm here if you need me. Till next time, PC. Janice, "warrior woman" is sooo funny!!! My brother used to call me "amazon" when we were kids because I have physicall strength. (and hopefully will again after my surgery) Kelly Posted by: KELLY on February 23, 2004 03:01 AMfrom IP: 68.74.107.211I hope no-one minds if I take it upon myself to thank Janice very much, on behalf of everyone in PC, for organising the delivery of the beautiful roses for Paul and for expressing so well the thought behind it. Janice - from all of us, a big hug and a sincere thank you. Kelly, it's good to hear from you. I wondered where you had gotten to! When I read in your post about how you converted your family to hugs and 'I love you's', I couldn't help thinking what a joy you must have been to have around as a child. What a lovely image of you with your arms around your Dad's neck willing him to say he loved you! And what a wonderful assignment to have in your life journey! I think it is so important to let people know how much we care for them. Sometimes we can underestimate how powerful an affirmation, even a very simple one, can be - for adults as well as for children. I hope you get your arm sorted out with this surgery. I'll be thinking of you. Hi Michelle! I was listening to a song I love today called 'I Believe' by Diamond Rio and I thought of you. Do you know it? If you don't, I'll email you the words. It ties in with our book and the belief that our angels and spiritual family are always near. Actually Kelly, you'd like it too. I know you have great faith in angels. If you'd like the words, I'll send them to you also. Inn, I hope that injection is doing its job! Remember, Spring is on its way. When I think of you, I can nearly feel your yearning for it! Evelyn, I hope all is going well on the job front. Linda, how is your back doing? Tim, you're in my thoughts and prayers. Paul, your light is clear and strong for all of us to see. It is important for you to know, as someone who is the source of so much good, that you are valued and very much a blessing and a joy in all our lives. Love and the best of wishes to you always.
Take good care, Thanks, Mary I would like the words very much. I don't get to listen to country much anymore as it's hard to get away from the hip hop (non-harsh) and the pop my kids listen to as I am firm on listening to what my kids are interested in so I know what their influences are (or are NOT to be).That is very kind of you to offer. Thanks, Kelly Posted by: KELLY on February 23, 2004 11:55 AMfrom IP: 68.74.107.211Wow Paul! You are amazing! I have got to say that I am so impressed with your inner strength. You have grown spiritually my friend. Life is here to live and you are here to live it! I was so sorry to read that the show will not go it's full course. I was honestly trying to figuring out a way to get "down under" to see you in the show. I've been away from he corner for quite some time,we have moved once more (thou still in Nova Scotia). We have also been very consumed with the book (that and saving the world *L*) Take care and all the best. Your attitude is catching, I feel inspired by you once again! Posted by: Michelle - Nova Scotia on February 23, 2004 12:14 PMfrom IP: 24.224.173.52Paul Welcome to all the Newby's Diane Gran Mil Tim The weather here in Maple Valley WA today was blue skies with scattered clouds and then it cleared up again to total blue sky and got up to a balmy 50+ degrees. Treated myself to a new lawn mower today. It's a key start with front wheel drive and a mulcher. I got tired of trying to push my old mower up hill. It was so old that there was a rust spot on the cowling, and when the mower was running the grass would shoot straight up. Where's my duck tape? Got the lawn mowed. Now get the rest of the yard cleaned up. There is a lot of debree left from the storms, and I didn't want to clean it up only to have another storm come through. Spring isn't officially here yet! Love and mental hugs to all on PC Marge, yes I got your letters and Andrea sends her thanks for your words. The beer batter recipe I have not tried yet but I will when I have my nights at home to do some cooking!! I have five tattoos which one are you refering to? Paul The beer batter recipe is from the New England part of the US. I use it for deep fried Halibut, which is a very ugly flounder that is native to our northern Pacific sometimes weighing over 300 lbs.. I have also used it for vetetables, shrimp, and other kinds of fish. After my mother died, my daughter took all her recipes and entered them on the computer. There were over 200 of them, some of them go back several generations.. Take care Paul
Posted by: Marge on February 23, 2004 06:40 PMfrom IP: 205.187.135.68 Monday, a good day... A bit of dialogue between my English teacher and I this afternoon... Teacher: Jenifer, have you got your answers to thos SB questions I asked you to do last Wednesday? So guess what I've spent about 4 hours working on tonight. One of the books that I have to return for Ancient History has also mysteriously vanished. I've pretty much turned the entire house upside-down about three times trying to look for it and can't find it, so I might end up having to pay for it, along with a new calculator, because a visiting year 12 from last year warned us that our calculators might run out of battery in the middle of an exam. Now one of my mates is so paranoid that the girl's jinxed all of us. Was feeling rather queasy today, because a certain person in one of my classes came back to school after donating blood to Red Cross and decided she was brave enough to say that she actually looked at what was going on and continue on to describe it in detail. Plugging my ears and asking her to shut up didn't work at all. It's my brother-in-law's birthday in 2 days. I still find it really strange that my sister has been married for 1 1/2 years already (I'm the youngest of 3, the eldest is in Japan, the other one is married). I guess it's part of getting older. 'Til later, (singing)...and really bad eggs...drink up me hearties, yo ho! Posted by: piratesavvy on February 23, 2004 07:30 PMfrom IP: 203.109.249.138Oh by the way... Marge... HEY PAUL, IT WAS I THAT ASKED ABOUT YOUR TATOO ON YOUR LOWER RIGHT ANKLE. I NOTICED IN THE FIRST 9 1/2 WEEKS. BUT NOW I WANT TO KNOW WHERE THE OTHERS ARE, AS WELL AS WHAT THEY ARE !! KELLY Posted by: on February 23, 2004 08:03 PMfrom IP: 161.150.2.27Kelly...maybe you need my meds. Just kidding. Anyway the Timster is working it. We had some of our best friends down this weekend. They lived here for a long time and moved about a year an ahalf ago to a little town in Tennessee. It's beautiful up there. Anyway, we took them to see My Fair Lady. It sent chills up my spine. I wanted to go down and be on stage too, but of course I could never sing standing on your street like that guy did. The eliza character was actually from a suburb of Atlanta but she's been working in NY for years. She was absolutely amazing. Theatre is such a kick UP for me. I could so easily live in NY and enjoy that whole aspect of life. My meds are slowly taking effect. I'm waiting to hear on some interviews. I'm doing hair in peoples homes, so I'm brining in some money. Letting go of that horrible bitch I worked for was a real upper for me. I'm simply not going to put myself in that position ever again. I'm going to contract and hopefully open up a little something of my own somehow, somewhere. My wife and I are having a hard time still. She doesn't LIKE my illness. But it's funny our friends that were down, Gibb and Debra, Debra has the same thing I doexcept worse. And it's my wife's best friend. She completely accepts her as she is, feels sympathy for her etc. . . but she's mad as hell that I'm not right. There you go a lesson from the universe. My kids are beautiful, hopefully I, we, are not screwing them up too badly with our ups and downs. I see the hurt in my 12 year olds eyes. Much like I felt when I was 12. I fear I've messed up with him. I hope I can fix it. Thanks to one and all for all your loving support. I am trying very hard. And I AM taking my meds. Paul, you and Andrea and the kids are in my thoughts. I cherish this board, and you and your family. It gives me such a thrill to know that I have the opportunity to talk to someone whose work inspired me so much. So FEW in your element allow themselves to be touched even a little by those that are so affected by their life. Thank you for sharing. peace and love to everyone. Tim Posted by: Tim Hord on February 24, 2004 01:42 AMfrom IP: 216.78.44.160
Tim, glad to see you posting. Please keep your chin up. I know it's hard for you, and easy for people to say that, but I mean it from the bottom of my heart. We need you here. I know how you feel about the theater. I LOVE NY! I go as often as I can. In fact, I see shows in Philadelphia, too. Just saw Sydney Dance Co. perform Feb. 6th in Philly. I thought of Paul the whole time the dancers were on stage, twisting, bending and gliding along like they were made of feathers. It was a wonderful night out. We're planning to see BOY FROM OZ in NY in March. Am looking forward to seeing Hugh Jackman. Diane, I'm so sorry for your loss. I'll keep you in my prayers. Inn, steroids helped me with my shoulder. Hope you feel as good as I do after your treatments. Janice, yes, thank you for ordering the flowers for us. You're the best! Peter, I'm still waiting for my 6 pack of sunshine. Are you still canning it for me? Hello to all the newbies, and a shout out to all the oldies! Take care, everyone. Tim, I think very few of us manage to grow to adulthood without carrying some scars from our childhood. It all comes down to the fact that we are all human and that, despite our best efforts, we don't always get it right. And that includes our parents. As long as your son knows that you and your wife love him (and I'm sure he does), then ultimately, he will be alright. A very close friend of mine once gave me this quote when I needed to hear it -'Earth has no sorrow that Heaven cannot heal.' For 'Heaven', choose whatever concept you want - God, the Universal Spirit or... Love. In my opinion, they're all one and the same thing. I will keep all of you in my prayers. Love to everyone, Diane, I'm so sorry to hear of your brother's passing. I wish you peace, love, and good health. I came across a quote from Moby Dick today that I thought was interesting: *****For as this appalling ocean surrounds the verdant land, so in the soul of man there lies one insular Tahiti, full of peace and joy, but encompassed by all the horrors of the half-lived life.***** Well, there's the obvious SB connection. I think there's also a certain element of letting go and trusting the universe, particularly when we let fear keep us from living. We all have that inner sanctuary that is there for us whenever we need to remember Who We Are and what we're capable of. And besides all that, Tahiti is WARM!!! Mary, I'm having trouble accessing my e-mail! I'll write as soon as I'm able. Please do send me the lyrics to the Diamond Rio song, it sounds like a good one! Tim, glad to hear things are looking up! Perhaps your wife will see your situation differently now that her friend has visited. I hope things continue to get better for you. Remember, we're always here if you need us! Hi, Michelle/NS! I've been wondering where you were! Glad to hear you're doing well. Good health energy to Inn, Kelly and Linda! Paul, thank you for sharing so much with us. I wish you joy in your journey! Much love to all my friends on The Corner! Michelle Posted by: Michelle on February 24, 2004 06:06 AMfrom IP: 24.14.248.67I joined an agency once a while back that was run by two wonderful people - a guy and a girl. The guy suffered from depression, the girl didnt. Sadly the attitude toward depression was kind of "I get down too you know so get over it!" The girl didnt believe in depression as a disease. Obviously with that kind of disbelief and lack of understanding and support the partnership didnt last and the agency closed down. My sister suffers from depression and other mental health issues. It is not easy for me to understand the true depth of her disease nor how to react or help her. Sometimes it is just easier to treat her normally and in doing so ignore the fact that she is not normal. That is a strange sentence but indicitive of the confusion of how to relate to someone with depression. I imagine Tim your wife can be sympathetic to her friend because she doesnt live with her, nor love her as much as she does you. Her friend can go back home and your wife can pretend all is okay with her. But to live with someone with depression and someone you love must be challenging at times just as it is having the disease. Sometimes it is easier to show compassion to those you are not so close with, to those you do not have such a great investment in. When my wife gets sick I am not a great carer. I tend to get angry at her (although in my defense I am getting better at being more compassionate)Why do I get angry? MY attitude to me being sick is hurry up and get over it! (my wife is very compassinate and looks after me really well)My attitude to my wife being sick is the same but she tends to react a little less positively to being sick and I get angry at that. I look after her quite well but with an air of business like austerity ( god I am not sure what that actually means but it sounds good!?) I dont like to see weakness in my wife and when I see that I get angry at her for indulging in it. I also get scared by it because I dont like to admit weakness in myself. Some times we are hardest on those we love most. Posted by: Paul on February 24, 2004 07:16 AMfrom IP: 210.49.171.131Paul...You put your point so well. I once heard you always hurt the ones you love because you know where they live! How true!! Diane...I am thinking of you and hope things will get brighter for you and your family soon. Linda Posted by: Linda Thomas on February 24, 2004 07:55 AMfrom IP: 67.172.80.183Paul, We can be pretty hard on ourselves too, (just quietly). Posted by: Peter on February 24, 2004 07:58 AMfrom IP: 203.41.31.115So many great posts. As I read them I hear responses in my head, but I have to get to the end to respond and by then it would be a lot of scrolling to pull off the perfect post. So I won't even try. I think Paul hit the nail on the head Timmer. It's hard to live with someone who's depresssed and face it, society does think we're weak for "indulging" in depression. Most women need to feel their man is in total control, but there's no denying that chemical depression exists and you're no less of a person for experiencing it. Maybe reading on the subject could help her. If I were your partner I'd read everything to understand your situation. Ask her what JC would do. What I wouldn't give to be babied when sick. Maybe it's the fear of death that makes you want to gloss over your mates momentarily diminished health Paul. And there's no denying that malekind is notorious for not returning the care it receives when ill. A large percentage of guys have been determined to be narcists!! A little loving attention when it's most needed would be one of the greatest gifts you could give your beloved. I'm glad to read you're working on it. I'm reeling at this first indication that you're less than perfect!!!! My illusions are shattered!! ;) How did I get so far behind???? I add my condolences Diane. Welcome newbie Jen. Mil descirbed this site so well. And thank you fellow PCr's for welcoming me back. Good night and good morning. I wanted to post this poem. I don't know who wrote it and many of you have probably read it before; it's very old: Those We Love They say the world is round - and yet Here's to rounding off the corners. Hey Hey Hey hang on a minute Whit!!! I never said I was less than perfect! I like to think that my idiosyncrasies are perfect also, and that I am able to remain in my perfectness even when I am being less than perfect - ie perfectly less than perfect in a perfect kind of moment - if you know what I mean :)!!? My less perfect moments are perfect in their own right. Phew! glad to sort that one out! Posted by: Paul on February 24, 2004 08:36 AMfrom IP: 210.49.171.131Thanks for the poem. I hadnt read it before. It is often true that we are more thoughtless towards those we love the best. I have made a real effort over the last handful of years to not do this, to not fall into this patern, to not take for granted the love offered so freely. This poem reminds me to tread softly, with care, respect and love for those that are nearest and dearest to my heart and for those that are not. Posted by: Paul on February 24, 2004 08:42 AMfrom IP: 210.49.171.131I have always found that I would tend to be impatient with those closest to me in areas where I have struggled/am challenged myself. It's almost as if it is too close for comfort to see 'weakness' in them in the same area. Your description of 'business like austerity' made me think, Paul, that this could actually be an instinctive defensive reaction to the area in question - and this would be different for each of us - rather than a reaction to the person themselves, who we know we care very much about. We can handle these things in those at more of a distance to us, simply because they are. Their lives do not flow into ours as closely. I also think that feeling 'safe' in someone's love is something we should always be careful with. On the one hand, there is nothing more freeing than believing that someone loves you unconditionally. On the other, there can be a temptation to feel safe in a different way and assume this is a given - consciously or otherwise - and to not be on high-alert with the maintenance of the relationship as you might be with other important - but ultimately less important, relationships in your life. It's not a reflection on your love for the person, rather a lack of vigilance. Peter, I agree. We can also be hard on ourselves, sometimes in a ruthless way. Michelle and Whit, I loved the quote and the poem! Take care all, Piratesavvy Whitney Paul Gran Mil
Love and good vibes to all at PC Tim, glad to hear the meds are doing their job! I'll keep my fingers crossed for you. Paul, what you said about how hard it is show compassion to people you love with sums up the day at school, starting from lunchtime. I admittedly don't know much at all about what happened, because I was in the library working on drawings for my friend's (we'll just call her C for now) major project. One of my best friends (J) is co-director and casting assistant for a short film that people from year 11 and 12 film club (I'm part of it too, but since C has helped me through a lot of stuff and is as close as J is, I figured I'd be more useful in the library) are making. From what I've been told by a third party, W (another very close friend), there was some argument carried on from yesterday, and one of the other film clubbers, who is C's cousin, accused J of doing something really bad, and it basically led on from there. W told me she hadn't seen J, normally as happy-go-lucky as can be, get so angry before. W didn't approach me until after lunch (and this was only by coincidence), when she was looking for J who had run off from class. She tried to explain to me what happened, but she wasn't too in the know on what was happening, either, so I went with her to try and find J. We found J and C both in tears (C was trying to comfort J). They tried as hard as they could to find the words to explain exactly what happened to the both of us, but weren't ready to recount the finer details. I just didn't know how to react at all. 'Til I try and work out more about this, Jen Posted by: piratesavvy on February 24, 2004 03:20 PMfrom IP: 203.109.249.137gahhh, I meant "people you love". Oh well. Posted by: piratesavvy on February 24, 2004 03:58 PMfrom IP: 203.109.249.137Jen, just be a good listener, and you'll see that as time passes, the difficulties among your friends will diminish, and later, no one will remember what the fuss was about. In "Gone With The Wind" Ashley Wilkes, (whom Scarlett thought she loved), remarked that when wars were over "nobody could remember what they were about." Marge, I was also proud of Hedy Lamarr's marvelous contribution to the war effort. That story was kept secret for years. Also, Marlene Dietrich, who became a big star in Germany before the war, had to fend off advances from Hitler himself, came to the U.S., became a big star here and was anti-Nazi. She went on USO tours all over the world to entertain our troops during World War 2. She eventually was forgiven by the German nation, lived to a ripe old age in Manhattan, and was buried in Germany. Sherrlyn, Tampa, Florida, is on the west coast of Florida. We live on the east coast of Florida, Janice, the flowers you sent to Paul from all of us was a lovely gesture. Thank you! Inn, hope you're feeling better! Timmer, you sound better..thinking of you! Paul, a woman my age would NEVER ask outright where your tattoos are..(could you give me a hint?) Peace and Love, Grandma P.S. ..sending sunshine to everyone. It's going to be 87 degrees today. Come on down! Hi PC, Gran Mil: Miss Hedy's "channel hopping" technology from WW 2 is still used today in cell phones. She was also exquisitely gorgeous!! She was Hungarian born, I believe. I've seen clips of her early 1930's movie "Ectasy" in which she was swimming naked as a jaybird. Wasn't this film banned in the U. S.? I'm thinking Miss Marlene lived out her life in Paris. She had become an American citizen in the early 1940's. Hitler tried to lure her back to Germany to make her the pinup queen of the Third Reich. PJM: Regarding your sister, concentrate on being with her rather that feeling that you need to do something and that will be more than enough. I try to remember that when I'm with my John Thomas. It's snowing here in New York. Enough already!! J. Timster: A BIG THANKS for taking you meds!! You're my hero. You know where I am if you need me. Whit: Great poem. Miss Jen: Take a deep breath, step back, and don't try to fix anything that doesn't directly involve you. Just be with your friends, and things will fall into place. Stay above the fray. I'm with Gran Mil: Say little/listen lots. Posted by: Janice on February 25, 2004 06:08 AMfrom IP: 24.184.222.224I came across this quote today and liked it: 'Don't pray for an easy life, pray to be a strong person.' There are times, however, when the first option is a lot more appealing! Hope everyone is feeling good today. Love to you all, PS Peter, you came into my thoughts a couple of times this evening. Hope all is well with you.
Thank you all for your love and support. I'm still waiting to find out when and where my brother's funeral services will be held. Just in the past few days, as I think of him, I imagine him smiling and laughing. I'm glad his passing was peaceful. Meanwhile my own physical health seems to be improving. All the tests so far have been negative, but we're still trying to find the cause. Still, today has been a good day and I'm looking forward to a good night's sleep. My older son, who just had his wisdom teeth yesterday, is pacing and chatting to me as I try to shuffle him off to bed. So I'll finish reading the posts tomorrow and then comment. HEY ALL, LOOK AT THE ADORABLE PHOTOS I FOUND, AND ARTICLE BY PAUL'S DAD. PAUL, YOU WERE PRETTY CUTE KID! KEL Posted by: KELLY on February 25, 2004 07:59 PMfrom IP: 68.74.107.211Hello everyone. I'm new to Paul's Corner and I would just like to say that I think everyone is really supportive of each other's ups and down's and that is so cool. Tim- I hope your medication is working out for you. I know what its like to be depressed. You feel hopeless and so sad that nothing is going to work out for you. Just remeber one thing. YOU can change. And I seriously think eventually you can do it without meds. You just have to find that place within yourself that makes you feel more at peace. Beleive me its hard. I was so paranoid, I used to think people were saying these things and feeling these things about me that weren't true. At one point I was very self-destrustive and suicidal. I used to think about dying all the time and that it would be a better way out. But that is such a sad way to think. I know its hard to realize but sometimes life is soooo NICE, and I didnt want to lose out on that. I wanted to be able to stop feeling sorry for myself and try, just try to be happier. And I think its worked. I still get down but as soon as I feel myself start to get in that mood where everything is just so awful, I just try to stay postitive and in a way distract myself from those feelings. Like dancing or watching a movie. Anything that lifts my spirits and makes me say "what the hell am I so upset over?" Diane- Whitney- Paul- Hope you guys have a good day and just remember Erin. I quote Life must be understood backwards; but it must be lived forwards Posted by: Miranda on February 26, 2004 01:19 AMfrom IP: 213.78.23.128Hello all Has anybody seen the Passion yet? I want to see it, but my grandma says it's very graphic and she doesn't think it's a good idea. And my mom doesn't know whether to take me or not. We're pretty strong christians so it's not like i'll be frightened as to what happened because i know about it enough...but they say it's one of the bloodiest movies the critics have ever seen(or so my grams said) But I haven't heard a majority of the comments being bad. So if you've seen the movie, would you mind telling me if it's pretty bloody or really not that bad. Diane- Very sorry to hear about your brother. When my cousin died, i just thought that he was in a better place with better people and God, and that comforted me a little bit Hope Paul and the gang are doing great! p.s- wish me luck on another competition this weekend...hopefully it won't turn out to be like the last one!!! Posted by: Cara on February 26, 2004 04:01 AMfrom IP: 205.188.209.69Cara The next movie I am going to see is "Dirty Dancing, Hanava Nights" I have read the reviews and it sounds exciting. Patrick Swayze of the original DD makes a small appearance as the hotel dance instructor. Diane Hedy Lamarr was born in Vienna Austria. Hi Gran Mil, Yes at your age you can ask anything you want. I'm getting there. Love to all at PC Posted by: Marge on February 26, 2004 07:25 AMfrom IP: 205.187.136.65 Cara Topless Fairy with gossamar wings sitting on a mushroom - outside right ankle Love to get a big multi coloured phoenix on my right upper arm and shoulder. Often thought I would like to have the girls baby photos tatooed onto my back but you need a really good tatooist for portraits. I also have the choinese symbols for - love, joy, health, harmony and prosperity which I would like to have either on my left arm or down the middle of my back. Always liked the look of tats on forearms - probably from growing watching popeye cartoons!! My wife doesnt want me to get any more nor do my girls - although Andrea should have learnt by now the more she tells me not to the more I want to and the less she tells me not to the less I want to .....strange hey? Will I? Yeah probably maybe sometime....it hurts a bit though! Posted by: Paul on February 26, 2004 09:09 AMfrom IP: 210.49.171.131Paul, Thanks for finally telling me what that tatoo was. And thanks for sharing all the others as well! You will LOVE your digital camera!! I have over 1,500 photos just of my son's travel baseball team on my hard drive. Many more of him in football, drama, wrestling, basketball and about 500 more of my daughter in soccer, softball, basketball and track. You can crop and make any size photo you want from 2x3 to 8x10. I have a 3.2 megapizal but am looking into the 5 megapizal. I have several action shots I am very proud of! Sports Illistrated here I come!! Take photos of every day stuff with your family, you'lle be gald you did. THEN, take some photos of yourself and your family for US! I think we would ALL like to see some current day photos of the older and wiser you!! I read the article your dad wrote about your upbringing and think you are lucky to have a dad that can express his feelings for you freely. That must be where you get it. It was a really nice story. I enjoyed the photos. especially Have you given any more thought about putting your poems into book form for all of us?? I will stop rambling.... Love and peace to all in the corner. I think of you all often through the day. Kelly Posted by: KELLY on February 26, 2004 09:57 AMfrom IP: 68.74.107.211err...hi, HEY PAUL Dear Paul, call me a meddling old bag, but I'm with Andrea and the girls...NO MORE TATTOOS, puleeeze! Those needles can spread hepatitis, or worse, and being you have pictures on every part (almost) of your anatomy, enough is enough! We love you plain or gussied up, but with moderation! There, I've said it and I'm glad! Peace and Love, Grandma Posted by: Grandma Mil on February 26, 2004 11:45 PMfrom IP: 67.75.73.169Hi everyone. The Timmer here. Diane, I'm so sorry I haven't posted regarding your brother. You have my utmost sympathy and I will hold you in my thoughts while you go through this change in your life. My love goes out to you and your family. Aunti Mil, I'm with you...I don't think Paul really needs anymore tattoos...besides, Paul, the more you have the more work makeup artists may have to do for a film. You don't want yourself "TOO" covered up with ink. But I do know what you mean abou the MRS. the more they say NO the more you THINK ABOUT IT. Miranda, I loved the line. I'm putting it on my screen saver, which currently says "nothing tastes as good as thin feels." I think the change would be more appropriate. Erin, Janice, Jen, Marge...your loving support is greatly appreciated. You know I went through this last year about the same time. I think I suffer from SAD as well. I can't handle the dreary days. Just can't. But...I must. It's snowed here today. The kids stayed out of school and played in it. It's supposed to snow again tomorrow and sleet, which means the streets become black ice and we have bumper car activity for the first 3 hours of rush hour in the morning. Crazy as hell. Whit..you know I love you. the poem was lovely. How's your writing? I don't know what I'm going to do with mine. I think I'm going to leave that one alone as a starter and start something new that's been brewing in my head. Not so deep. You know I wish we could have a Paul convention here in the states sometime. Where could all meet. Somewhere WARM, Arizona or better yet Florida so we could see Auntie Mil and all her stuff. We really should all try to make her 2005 show. We've got loads of time to plan. Wouldn't that just be a hoot!!. We all show make a movie of it and send it to Paul...or better yet send Paul and Andrea tickets to come see us??? Think of it. what a helluva way to introduce SB at the 2005 show again, with Paul on stage.. And all of us in the front row. Well obviously my ability to have happy thoughts is returning. Love to everyone. Thanks so much to you one and all for listening to me and caring. Or just letting me vent. peave and love Tim Posted by: Tim Hord on February 27, 2004 03:00 AMfrom IP: 216.78.39.131Paul I agree with Kelly, take pictures every day, even though you may not print them. Have your girls take pictures of you and Andrea. My friend took a few pictures of Larry and I just before he died. I cherish them. Diane This poem is for everyone here who have lost a loved one. Tim lad! Love to all at PC
A PAUL CONVENTION? WHAT A GREAT IDEA? Dear Timmer, You're definitely on a roll, and we're all so happy for you! Look at you, ready to open new avenues in your work, and learning to tango with a bevy of beauties! I love the idea of having a Paul Convention next February in Florida, and having everyone at my "Follies 2005"!
Keep up the good work, Tim, we love you! Auntie Mil Posted by: Grandma Mil on February 27, 2004 04:39 AMfrom IP: 67.75.94.217TIM, YOU SOUND GREAT!! Maybe the meds ARE working so soon. Its great to see you so optimistic about things. Keep up the good work!! If I win the Michigan Megamillions, I will pay for us all to meet! Oh wait, that was last week. This weeks it's only 10 million. Well that's still enough, ok . if I win, the parties on me! Kelly Posted by: KELLY on February 27, 2004 04:46 AMfrom IP: 161.150.2.26A PC meet-up would be great. Now Kelly has me thinking that we need to go in on one of those multi-state mega-lotteries. That said, I'm not particularly lucky with gambling, so if one of you other enterprising folks wants to take up a collection, just tell me where to send my contribution... Greetings to Jen, Cara, Miranda, musiclover and others to whom I have not already offered a hearty welcome. There is great wisdom to be found here as you can see. Grandma Mil is a fountain (of wisdom) unto herself — and yes beautiful. Millie, I agree with you, Marge and Tim on the tatoos also. Selective piercing seems more alluring and attractive and for an actor, more pratical. Miranda and Marge, thanks for the quotes. I had expected to get back here yesterday, but I ended up in bed again last night. Meeting with another doctor tomorrow. Very frustrating. I'll keep you posted. Love and hugs to all, Diane Posted by: Diane on February 27, 2004 05:57 AMfrom IP: 24.130.221.100Hi PC, Gran Mil: I agree with you. No more tats for PJM. PJM: One of my male patients had an American flag tat on his nether part. Not that I minded, as I'm pretty patriotic. I must say that when his flag was at full mast I did snap to attention, place my hand to heart then saluted while humming our national anthem. I'm such a creature of habit, as Dad always taught me to do these things in the presence of my flag. ;-) I find that many women don't really care too much for tats. We'd much rather see your creamy, alabaster, porcelain, and perfect skin than animals, object, or creatures taking up residence on it. Tats hurt going on, and the laser treatment to remove them is costly and no picnic to endure. Do you really need blood poisoning, etc.? What say you about your girls getting tats?? Kids learn what they live. Welcome to newbies. Till next time PC: Elbows up, head high, feet moving forward. Love to All, Yep kids learn what they live and I guess mine will learn to be themselves and honour that. They do not always agree with me or think what I do is right or good - they from thier own opinions and wether I agree with them or think they are right I need to support them as best I can - tattoos?? well thats up to them not me. Posted by: Paul on February 28, 2004 06:34 AMfrom IP: 210.49.171.131I'd have to say that's a pretty darn good and healthy thing for your daughters to learn and for that matter anyone. Posted by: Evelyn on February 29, 2004 07:06 AMfrom IP: 128.101.253.24NOTE: Comments are moderated. You must enter a valid email address--it will not be displayed on the page. Your comment may take a while to show up on the page. Thanks for your patience. Comments on old entries are closed. Please only comment on the current entry. |
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