Paul's Corner

Paul, life is a lot like the weather. We can't expect you to be shining all the time. But like the snow that gathers after a brief time with sunshine, we appreicate it (you) and find the beauty within. :)

The people that make comments are rude and sadly that is a flaw of soicety. People do not mind their own damn business and they should be disgusted and ashamed with themselves.

oh point number 7. idioits that come on to other peoples web sites/blog site for the clear intention of disruption!

Hello Paul,

Life's a rollercoaster ride, isn't it? It's a shame we have to depend on other people for our survival and the validation of ourselves, but it must be so much harder for you, being in the public eye constantly. It is times like this, when you post about your trials and tribulations, that I don't feel too bad about my lot in life. No one comments on how fat I am and the fact that I, too, have thinning hair. I have a steady job that pays the bills, even though I complain it's never enough. I have gone through periods in my life when there was NO money coming in, so I can sympathise with your plight. It's damn hard.

I cannot say any words of wisdom to cheer you up, but I can say that you are loved by everyone here. It's little consolation, I know, but we're all pulling for you. Hope things get better for you soon.

Be well.

Sally C.

Hi Paul,

It sounds like your dark cloud has been hovering over you too long. Okay, so you have a weight and hair thinning problem. Something a majority of us struggle with our entire lives. It’s easier for us, because we’re not celebrities. Ugh, celebrity – a double edged sword. So you’re not Scott Hastings… you’re Paul Mercurio. We’re lucky to have Scott Hastings frozen in time in SB, but we LOVE Paul Mercurio.

I’d like to comment on the friendship you mentioned. I had a friend; I kept my horses at her house. (Notice, I said kept.) As long as I held a prestigious job and was receiving yearly “living will” funds from my parents, she was my best friend. Well, I lost my job due to position funding, and the living will stipends ended, suddenly, I wasn’t any use to her. Talk about judgmental. I started feeling poorly about myself, and finally realized I was shouldering her insecurities. She said a lot of very hurtful things to me. I moved my horses out of her place and severed contact with her. It was hard, but I had to do it for my mental health. Frankly, I have enough problems of my own without taking responsibility for hers too.

We love you, Paul. I’m thrilled for your brewery venture. I feel that’s going to be your bread and butter. I want to see you in front of the camera… oh boy, do I want to see you in front of the camera, but the financial security the brewery will bring you is the secret. I truly believe that.

Love, Sue L-K

PS: Did you receive the book and cards I sent you? I think Alla’s thoughtful words will help you get out from under the dark clouds.

Dear Sweet Paul,

I'll go ahead and number my entries too...we could all make light of our lot in life... ;)

#1. I'm (and I'm sure I speak for all of us)am so happy that you finally came to let us all know you were still out there!

#2. We missed you.

#3. I was hoping you were too busy to come see us.

#4. Why does life mess with us so much? I think I know the anwswer to that..but it would take days to explain. I think you too know the answer to that anyway.

#5. I'm so glad you "vent" to us. We are always, and will always, be here for you. We don't care about what you look like on the outside...hey, we can't "see" you in here. But you know what? We think we really DO see you. And we LOVE what we see. Can't you know how special you really are? I know you can and you are just expressing what you are feeling and going through right now. We all need to do that.

#6. For the short time I've "known" you, I think I can see that life has beat you up quite well at times. That sucks. You don't seem to deserve it, but who am I to say?

#7. No matter what, I honestly, deep in my heart, feel that the good you put out, will come back to you at the appropriate time. You are on a path of learning. Don't fight it.

#8. Paul, keep the faith. It's all got to pay off someday. I think some of the physical fight you are going through can take a toll on you in time. You don't want that. Take a deep breath and have faith...in what you are, or are not seeing in the here and now.

#9. Did I mention that we love you?

Last and not least:

#10. Please don't stay away so long this time. We worry about you. I think you have a bunch of extra nice friends here...call us doting. We want to dote over you and give you a soft place to fall! You deserve it! Now gull dernit, please don't get too low. Don't let the stupid people you encounter get under your skin! You are better than that!

Mean people suck....haven't you heard??

Paul, I'm sorry that you are in this cloudier place. I know right now more so than at other times how difficult it is when your security is pulled away from under you and you have nothing to do with it, like the TV execs postponing the airing of your show that would enable you to film more episodes and thus give you financial stability. Maintaining a positive outlook and to keep hoping and finding that other path, that other door, is a choice, but not exactly an easy one. I hope your venting helped you clear your mind and heart and enabled you to fill yourself with some positive affirming energy. I'm sending you a healthy dose of it.
Here's my wish for you:
(1) I wish that you find calm in this frustrating situation that sucks so utterly and completely on so many levels (pardon my English, but that's currently my favorite venting expression as it pertains to my life at the moment).
(2) I wish for you that you can release the frustration and instead find that soothing inner calm energy that rejuvenates you and gives you hope.
(3) I wish that people treat you with the respect that you deserve like everyone else on the earth and that especially because you are more in the public eye than most of us, they show you respect and courtesy and don't lock you in some box of how they perceive you from a film role. Disrespectful people really royally piss me off (again, pardon my English, another of my current favorite bitching expressions!) but I know that like everyone else, I have moments as well when I'm disrespectful and judgmental of others both professionally and personally and that's where I hope those others will be gracious enough to forgive me while also calling me on it. It is one of our human flaws, but if we are more conscious of it and foster respect overall, I think we can each learn to do less of it.
(4) I wish you strength to accept that which you can't change. There's nothing worse than being stuck in the past wishing to undo something, to change something that cannot be changed. It's a waste of energy and not overly productive. Although, let me add this, acknowledge the frustration and the pain and vent, but release it.
(5) I wish you the intuition to know where changes are possible, to explore new paths.
(6) I wish for you to be surrounded by supportive and loving people to be with you, to guide you, to inspire your, to make you laugh and cheer you up, to hug and kiss you, to listen to you, to encourage you. It's often in crises that you find out who your true friends are. Treasure them!
(7) Most of all, I wish that deep down your trust in the universe and the greater power isn't shattered, that you are able to believe that when a door closes for real or seemingly, that something else awaits you that you didn't anticipate, that can be “better”
I hope I'm not sounding too optimistic and too much as if I'm ignoring your frustration. I can relate and have vented my fury a lot, but I found the venting and releasing my fury to the universe very freeing and empowering, as I'm denying some people the power they wish to hold over me, whose error has put my job, my legal status in this country and my career into jeopardy and who aren't doing the right thing by me. At the moment I am surprisingly peaceful about the insecurities that surround my “life,” trusting and knowing that there is a job and a place out there for me, a home and friends to share it with, not happy about the waiting period (March/April 06) but again, I can't change that and need to live my life as best as I can in the circumstances that life chose to throw at me.

Be well and may good things come your way!

YAY! Can you feel the love?!

I wish we could all sit and share some of Paul's brew and forget about all the crap life throws at us! LOL

But running isn't the best idea either...
(well, maybe some quick sprints are allowable)

But at least we can all run to this site still!

You got to laugh!! And I did! Susan L K bless you for your thoughts - but I may just clear something up - I dont have a weight problem LOL! My problem is with people who make comments about my weight and generally they are comparing me now to the movie 15 years ago. No I am not in denial about my weight, whilst I could afford to lose a few pounds I dont see how I look as problematic - in fact I think I am looking good right now! :)Thats what my wife says anyway and she is not backward about coming forward when she thinks I am looking tubby.

After I posted yesterday some of the cloud shifted and I certainly felt a little lighter, happier and a little more positive.

Here's the deal. Yeah, the movie you made 15 years ago was great. I've seen it more than once. But none of us are what we were 15 years ago, and hopefully, that's a good thing. we grow, we change, our looks change, but so does our spirit. I'm not in front of a camera on a regular basis (thank god)so I can only imagine what it is like to be in the public eye. People say things without thinking. Take a deep breath, and let it go. I live in the U.S., and don't even know what you look like at this point in time, since I don't have Aussie tv. BUT, I think the fact that I logged onto your website, and read your blog, not knowing you from anyone else, and found it interesting enough to respond too, shows that you are so much more interesting than just being a pretty face. I don't know if that last sentence made sense. anyhow.....

We all second guess ourselves at times, and also wonder whether we are where we are "supposed to be" in life. Hey, I've been a practicing doctor for ten years, and I still stare out my office window and wonder if this is really all there is.
The point is, with your talent, and apparent kindness of heart, you have alot to explore and accomplish. Perhaps it has nothing to do with acting and showbiz. It may end up that you accomplish great things away from showbiz.

I was visiting a friend in Colorado a few weeks ago, and came upon a t-shirt that I had to buy. It screamed out to me. It simply read "Viviere Memiento"(sp?) Remember to Live....

forget the negative people and remeber to live.

Hi again. I just wanted to say that I am in no way mking light of Paul's situation. I am fully aware of how difficult his life has been in trying to live his art. I hope and pray for extreme happiness to come his way. Soon!

I just tend to be a joker sometimes and I am also one of those idiotic optomists, although, I've had some mighty pesimistic notions myself. My life has been a total dissaster many times around and keeps on ticking like the dang duracell bunny! I don't know why. lol

Paul, I just wanted to maybe make you see the folly of this life. We can make it or break it IN SPITE of the idiots surrounding us each day...

Hey, I resemble that remark! Can you tell I need to get back to work?? lol See you all soon..

Hey Paul,

I bet if I was up close and personal with you, my heart would beat fast and my mind would say, "Hubba, hubba, what a swooch!" ;)

Love ya, Sue L-K

Paul,

I hate it when people make comments about my life when I'm perfectly happy with my life the way it is. It seems like people feel the need to express how THEY feel your life should be if they were living it. What bugs me more is when I start to question my life, the life I'm happy with, after someone brings something up! Why do I do that to myself?!

I'm sorry that I can't offer these perfect words of wisdom to lift the cloud completely and send it along it's way. I can only say I'm here to listen and to offer what support and friendship I can.

BTW tell your wife she is awesome. She seems like the best person in the world for you to share your life with. During all the questions that you have, I see that you never have to question her commitment to you. That must be a great sense of peace to you.

((hugs)) to all.

Jill

Dearest Paul,

This may sound corny and a bit short.

To me you are still one amazing talent who has made the movie that has left a lasting impression on me for the past ten years.

And I have had the privalege to get to know the exceptional person (and his exceptional family) behind the star.

And I still think you're one of the hottest actors over forty (after seeing the web preview of the Full Monty)Screw Kevin Costner and all them it's Paul Murcurio by far! (let's just hope Kat lets me post this ***Grinn***)

take care all,

Hello PC Friends,

PAUL-I'll have you know that I married a man who was already "thin" on top and I found him and still do find him incredibly sexy.

I had to sever ties with a best friend of over 30 years. And, another friend who was close as well. My life had changed and I began to view life in a different light.

One friend was too high maintenance to keep up with. I did not like the way she spoke to my children. She literally drained me. And, she would make comments about how she wanted a husband just like mine. I could go on and on about this particular friend but I think y'all get the point. One friend was overly religous and judged me way too harshly.

While I did greive these friendships-it wasn't them I missed-it was the girly girl attention. And, I'm fine if they think that I'm an ass. It was time to get out of them. And, I never thought that I'd see the day.

Thanks, again, Paul, for making yourself vulnerable. Although, I'm sure you're one "mean" cook-you know how to give "food for thought"!

HUGS!
Abeth

Man! It must be nice to have so many "girl" friends! Life is nothin without your girlfriends. ; )

I agree that Andrea is your best girlfriend ever! We love her for loving and supporting you throughout your trials and tribulations.

You have a household of wonderful girlfriends. Stick with them, and you'll never go wrong.

In a world where so many men are afraid of showing their emotions, it's so refreshing to share our lives with you.

Thanks for all you do Paul.
Have a great day! (or night)

Hi Paul,
Speaking as a 22 year old girl...I can honestly say I think you're incredibly hot :) I wouldn't worry about what people say...

Weight...hair...they're all just transient, irrelevant things that mean nothing. You're always so positive and confident...it's inspiring.
much love,
elisa.

Dear Paul:

"It's always darkest before the dawn." The negativity will pass and you'll be fine.It's temporary. Life has its ups and downs which we all experience. Be strong.

Comments from so called-friends and acquaintances could be a jealousy factor. It gives them a high when they hurt someone. Think about it, you are extremly talented, handsome with a beautiful smile and a wonderful family. Who wouldn't be envious?

Paul, We care about you and want you to have the very best life has to offer.

Juliet S.

I'd have to agree with Elisa. Each day when I pull up this site to see what's up, I give you a wink!

;)

Dear Susan L-K and Elise,

Hubba hubba is right!

This 72 year old "girl" thinks Paul is STILL incredibly hot too! (Don't tell Ellie or Andrea!)

We're waiting for Hurricane Wilma to visit us tomorrow and Monday. Ellie and I made elaborate preparations...we bought a cheap flashlight and a couple of batteries...que sera, sera!

To the newbies...Michelle from Chicago and Mary from Ireland met in Florida last February for the first time during the "Strictly Ballroom Convention", where 8 others came also from all over and met each other for the first time also.

Now, Michelle probably landed in Ireland already, to visit with Mary for two weeks. It is amazing how close friendships were begun that weekend, and it was all due to our love of Paul and his family, and Cat who got us together through PC!

Now it can be told..and told...and told!

Shalom and Love,

Gran Mil

I'll second, third or forth the sentiment of Susan, Elise and Grandma Mil. Paul you do look fabulous!!! Yeah, yeah and stop blushing now (me talking to myself..., I think :-))

Doesn't exactly relate to you but in a way it does. Lately, I've been to a bunch of performances (ballet, opera, two theatre performances within two weeks) and it's amazing what you guys in the performing arts do and how much my spirits were lifted by and during the different performances and just being able to laugh out loud at something that was incredibly funny--that is such an amazing gift, to bring laughter, joy, new impulses for thinking, beauty and being moved to people's life. I just wanted to express my appreciation!

Grandma, it was great talking to you a few hours ago!

Hi Paul,

I happened to be flicking channels about a week ago when Strictly Ballroom came on. Not generally one for romantic comedies I decided to watch it anyway because well to be honest, there wasn't much else.
Funnily enough, I ending up really enjoying it and was particulary fascinated by the main character. Now i'm not generally one to develop crushes on actors or characters but occasionally I will spot something intriguing by a performance. It wasn't the character that I liked, it was something about the presence, don't ask me what I can never explain it but I somehow knew there was something about you that I liked.

I happened to be on Google not long after and found myself typing in your name , eventually coming across this site. I was surprised at how open you are and could relate a little to the mixed feelings you have towards life at times.Your heartfelt sincere entries confirmed that what I had noticed about you wasn't a fluke.

In response to your last two entries, I was very confused as I read your first point of why you were feeling down. Your weight? Admittedly it had been awhile since i'd seen Dancing With the Stars so I thought i'd better double check. As I expected there's absolutely nothing wrong with your weight!

And thinning on top?? pfffft i wish i could show you a picture of my dad! Ok sure he's in his 50's now but I honestly can't remember ever seeing him with half as much hair as you've got. Perhaps you're not a spitting image of what you were 15 years ago but name me one person who is?

My guess is these people have spent years bitterly watching their wives/girlfriends/girls they wish they could have lust after that bloody Paul Mercurio and their only way of making themselves feel better about that is acknowledge that funnily enough you don't look the same as you did fifteen years ago. I'm not just saying that to make you feel better, I honestly mean it. I don't see why they would feel the need to comment had they not have been carrying some insecurities themselves.

As for your funk mood I don't know exactly what to tell you. I guess if we didn't have funk moods we would not be able to appreciate the...non-funk moods. As great as I think it is to stay positive and be grateful; i'm a big believer in the saying you can't always choose what happens to you, only how you deal with it, but the problem is we're all human and even if we are blessed and there are people suffering much worse we are always going to feel down at times, no matter how hard we try to stay positive.

Hope you feel better soon.

Laura

Dear Paul, it is a strange chance I am arrived on your site. I was sure to find the usual cold shining website of a dancing star and I've found a person more similar to me than I've ever believed.

When someone criticizes me for havin put on weight in these last year of trouble (especially women) I say, not very convinced, to be onest, that I AM BEAUTIFUL beause it's me, regardless the shape of my body.
Bu now I understand that this is the truth, and I say it to you, too.
Me and my sister have an entire collection of movies about dancing, we had always loved it but in our family there weren't enough money for dancing school when we were young so we can just watch now.
Your movie is the one we love the most.
Vivir con medo es como vivir amedia... we think this motto was a great theaching.
I know perfecly how you feel... a rider on the storm, would say Jim Morrison.
I don't know how to express you the muddle of feelings your words have produced inside me. What can I tell you?
Maybe just what I tell to myself everyday:
Fight up. Never give up.

Hugs
Michela

p.s. Good luck for your brewery. If you need some help for your designs and logo I would be very happy to partecipate! I am a graphic designer, and it says italian design is cool ;->
Love