Paul's Corner

hey
i appreciated reading what u posted, i guess it reminds you that you need to live your life to the full, dont take things for granted, and thank God for your life.

thanxx for being an awesome autralian, one of a few australian celbs i do respect.

i have never posted anything on this site, but i have loved you since i saw strickly ballroom.
my favourite movie in the world! i love everything about it! your absolutly gorgeous! (yeah.. you get that all the time!)

i hope you have a great week and a beautiful night!

love lynda

HELLO PC FRIENDS,

PAUL-I'm so sorry that your friend is gone. It must be difficult to face this hurdle in your life. What makes this even more sad is that your friend was murdered because he was gay. I hope that justice is given in this case and the lot of them get what they deserve. I also hope that you and your wife will be okay after giving evidence-like I said-what a difficult hurdle. Be well.

HUGS,
abeth

Paul and PCs--

So sad that humankind can be so inhumane!

Paul, I know you asked us not to post, but I can't help to feel empathic.

Thank you for sharing with us.

Melody

Welcome Lynda, glad to know some one thinks I am still cute!!

Just to clarify, I did not ask that no one post only that you didnt post 'apologies or sorry's' and just to clarify my friend was murdered on the same street that the court is on in the 1980s' so the murder trial Andrea and I are witnesses for is a totally different matter.

Abeth thanks for your thoughts but if you read my post again you will note that the people who killed my friend are already in jail for that crime - thankfully but I cant help wondering what a senseless waste of their lives they have made of them. And what a senseless and vile and cowardly act taking some ones life is.

May there be justice of some sort (even though I frequently feel very ambivalent about that one too, as I don't know what kind of justice there is for such a horrid action).
May those who lost deeply in this murder, find some sort of peace.
May the one whose life was tragically and senselessly cut short find peace, despite the violent nature in which s/he had to leave this existence.
May those who committed the crime come to their senses.

Appreciating life is a good thing as we never know how long we will enjoy it!
Peace (and I don't mean it in the cliche way)

thanks paul, and im not the only one! my girls think your pretty spunky too!
=]

i know my cousin was shot for being a christian in Iraq, his family was killed before his eyes, his kids n wife, discrimination agains religion or orientation is such a terrible act.

can we not live in a world of "peace" as you say evelyn? i hope the day comes.

love lynda

Paul -
I just want to say I'm so thankful you and your wife are willing to testify. Im a lawyer and it is so hard to get reliable witnesses to stand up in court and say what they saw. There is such a culture of intimidation around these things.

Janey

Lynda, I so agree with you. In this world there is so much discrimination, one religion against another...one culture against another...even one gender against the other all to often. That is one reason I appreciate everyone here on PC. We come from some very different beliefs and backgrounds, yet are still loving toward each other. I've never seen the like before. Thanks to Paul, Cat, and everyone here for this accepting atmosphere. This is a wonderful place to come and learn how others view the world, God, universe, fate and the workings thereof.

Hi Paul,
many thanks that you gave me an answer.
It is a relief to me.
above all I am happy that the package has reached
its goal.
I know that you have another outlook on life and you are happy with it. You are a very positive man and I think it is admirable. And I respect your view. I just thought that every man has the same fundamental questions mentioned in the contents of one of these books. And it doesn't matter which kind of view he has or which kind of religion or culture or nationality. And I just thought that every man would like to have satisfying answers to these questions.
These questions are put into a cradle of every human being. And there are answers. I thought that you have the same questions and you would like to have an answer , too. Especially I'm thinking about chapter 6,7 and 11.Maybe you'll read it. Please don't misunderstand me I don't want to get on your nervs. But it's often difficult for me to restrain if I'm absolutly convinced in one thing and I know that other people as well have profit from it.
"For out of the hearts aboundance his mouth speaks".
Whatever you'll do in your life I wish you and your family all the best and peace of mind!

Yours sincerely

Bärbel

Paul and all PCs--

I agree it's great that we all can meet, reach out as needed, debate, cry, our thoughts coming together on the pulses of the internet. How awesome is that!

Going back to what Janey mentioned, how true in obtaining reliable and willing witnesses, not to mention the intimidation many face.

Also in jury duty--I know I've cringed when I've received a notice to stand by, but I know I'd want a good, fair jury if ever needed for myself.

We have one court many in Chicago dread and that's 26th and California (westside Chicago streets). That is where most of our violent crimes are tried and the area is not the best to travel to. I've been called for litigation at Daley Plaza which is downtown, but I've yet to be called out there.

Good weekend everyone, and Paul, I hope the case comes to a good and just end.

Paul, thanks for sharing yet another very personal part of your life. Not many people are willing to testify in such a case.

Welcome to "The Corner" Lynda. :o)

I've only been called for jury duty once and that was when I still lived in NYC (actually not long before I moved to VA). However because of my profession I was not chosen to sit on a jury, and as I'm still in the same profession chances are I won't be chosen if called for jury duty again. It makes for a very long day. (In NYC you have to show for 2 days regardless of whether or not you are chosen, unless the court formally dismisses you.)

I hope everyone is well and is planning a nice weekend. :o)

Dear Paul,

This incident reminded me at once of the Matthew
Shepard incident, which was known around the world
as "The Laramie Project." (See Wikipedia)

Matthew was also gay, and the two men that were convicted of his brutal murder are spending the rest of their lives in prison. Their defense was that they only wanted to rob Matthew, but it was proven in court they killed him only because he was gay.

The incident was made into a play, and different casts around the world were in it.

Tara Morice was in the Australian version some
time ago.

Shalom and love,

Grandma Mil

Hey, Paul- I was thinking how surreal having to testify in the same place as your friend's incident; a bit like traveling back in time.

Funny how stupid humankind is- we always talk about learning from past mistakes, and yet we still haven't solved certain problems. Which then got me to thinking how small the world is (thanks to world-wide web), how small-minded a lot of people are, and how much smaller everything is getting.

I want to echo Lynda's outlook of living life to the fullest! It certainly makes life more gratifying.

Paul,
I just came across this site after watching Strictly Ballroom this weekend with my sisters. We are in our 30's and spent time with each other to relax, have fun, and celebrate each other. I wanted to find out more about the actors from the film and have been reading your posts. I wish I had some profound statement about life to share with you after reading this particular post, but all I can think of is that there is always positive in life, even in the presence of negative. I am a nurse, not a poet, but I see daily the beauty of the human spirit in many even in the face of uncertainty and suffering and it moves me. Never underestimate the power of one person and what small actions, even just a smile, can do for another. Sounds pretty sappy, doesn't it? (I am the glass half full kind of person.)Did you ever think when making your films that you would reach so many people? For that time we spent watching your movie, we were taken to a world full of determination and love, and beautiful dancing, something I can never do, but I lived it while watching you. And, by the way, we all think you are pretty cute, too!

Jill, thank you for your post. I am indeed so very lucky in that something I was a part of so long ago continues to bring people joy today. When I have my bad days and my mad days and then I hear comments such as yours it brings joy and strength to me, to know that even if I am not working today or being fulfilled by taking people on some magical journey right now, I in fact probably am because somewhere someone is watching one of my films and being transported.

Paul,

You ARE gorgeous, inside and out. When I first saw you in the SB movie, your charisma was undeniable. I just feel lucky that we have come to develop an actual relationship of sorts with you. Not a SORTED relationship....you see the difference, I hope. LOL

This life is so weird. Full of life and unfortunately, full of death. Full of good and full of evil. There will always be the battle between good and evil. People are just people, nothing more. When a choice is presented, we either choose to do good or, sometimes and for so many sad reasons, we chose to do evil. I don't think it will ever change. I still see it as a test.

So you and Andrea gave your testimony and it's done, or will it drag on? You're both giving evidence? God, this doesn't sound good. I hope you guys are o.k. and find a way to handle all that is placed upon you.

Maybe when the kids are grown, would you think of trying out someplace else? I know! I know! Not many choose to leave their homelands...but a major change sometimes does a soul good. Just a dumb thought.

Thanks for sharing your inner most life with us once again Paul.

Hello to all and hope everyone is enjoying their weekends!

Paul,
Thank you for responding to my post, I was not expecting it when I came back to the site to read more and your comments made me feel good and glad that I shared my feelings with you. I have been reading more of the past posts and your poetry and am intrigued by your words and the responses of all. I will continue to read and perhaps even comment myself from time-to-time if that is ok. You all seem very familiar to each other, is it just from this site? I would not want to intrude.
Jill

Hello Paul! You have all the reason, you are impossible that in century 21 people with as many preconceptions exist. You are very sensivel person, therefore it suffers very with so great loss. Kisses Horos Maria

Jill,

I agree with you. "Intrigued" was the perfect way to descibe how one approaches this site. I have only chimed in once when I felt as if Paul was not being fair to himself in his posting.

Quite often I feel like commenting would be intruding, but what I have noticed is that these people (women) REALLY care and I am so impressed on a regular basis.

I am also delighted to see that Paul does respond and interact with those on this site. It make me appreciate him as a person instead of just the pretty face. Yes, Strictly Ballroom is awesome, but I really adore Exit to Eden. (Own it, love it....sexy role, no dancing)

This entry of his has touched me greatly. As I too had a friend murdered. She, a teen, and her mother were murdered in the late 80's by her "boyfriend." I was spared having to do any testifying as he admitted and plea bargained himself out of what I think should have been the ultimate punishment. To this day, I cannot go down the street where she and her mother were killed. It has been so long that you would think I could go down it, but I can't bring myself to do it. I admire that Paul had the ability to get past that and make it in order to testify. It was so long ago, you would think that I could do the same, but remembering Wendy and her mom just rips down my chest.

Wow, I had not realized how unresolved that part of my life has been.

....but back to my original compliment...the people who speak up on this site are an awesome bunch and quite powerful in support of each other. Keeping up with this site is my one true private indulgence.

Rhonda,
I really appreciate your comments. I can't imagine that you would ever be able to get over something like that. I myself have never had to deal with someone I love having their life tragically ended through senseless violence. I can only imagine how one feels going through that kind of experience. I know what you mean, though, about having trouble going down that street. I took care of my brother-in-law 4 years ago as he died of cancer in his home. I gave him morpine for pain as I had been doing for days for he was in great pain in the end, but he died a few minutes after I administered the last dose I gave him in his IV so I was the last person he heard and saw, not my sister. I know logically that this did not cause his death, but I still feel that pain inside my heart and wonder if I hadn't done that, would he have had some last word to say to her that I took away from them. I have a real hard time at my sister's house when I see his things. I had known him for all my life; he was only 43. He asked me to promise him that I would not let him suffer in pain. I don't think we ever get past something like that, we just develop a way to cope.
I agree with you that I can sense a bond between the people who regularly post on this site and I have to admit that reading through the archives I have felt a little like a voyer. I am also impressed with Paul. Society seems to put so much emphasis on the 'glitz and glamour" of actors that it is difficult to imagine what they are truly like but after reading these posts, he seems very real, with feelings and thoughts and life, not just a character. I will have to watch Exit to Eden now that you so highly recommend it.
Jill

Hello Jill and Rhonda,

So awesome to read your posts. Both moved me deeply. I must say that I have no "in" with the absolutely fabulous people here on this site.

I saw Paul in SB one day and was pulled to his talent and charm, and wanted to learn more about him. When I did, I discovered this site, "voyered" for a brief time, and I could not resist. I think all of our experiences are similar.

Eventually I invited myself into the circle of people here with my first post. I was warmly accepted and now, and I hope rightfully, feel accepted here. I cannot go away from this site and have been here for almost 2 years now.
Can you believe that? I cannot speak for Paul, but I think the spirit of this site is an open invitation to people of good heart. I hate to sound too cosmic, but I truly feel it is destiny. I'm fighting sounding corny. Wow. I'm not doing too good a job with it.

Anyway, I have never seen anyone turned away from this site yet. I'm not the host, or anything close (thank you Cat and Paul!), but I think I can say, welcome to Paul's Corner. It's a nice spot on the block to hang out. :)

My sister now has cancer and for the first time in life, this is something that is really scary for all of our family. She is super brave and strong and dealing with this in a way that most would not. I am not living in the same state as she is so at this time I email or call almost daily to let her know I am there for and with her. I have taken much of this into my life and body. It's weird. I am trying to love her, but the only way I know to do that is to become intigrated. I don't know how to keep myself separate and safe. Weird to say that, huh? I am dealing as she is. I just keep thinking we are all traveling on this journey and all of our encounters and experiences are part of our growth. Towards what, I don't know.

Anyway, rambling a bit now. Jill, you are a very brave soul. I am not sure I could have done what you did by being there for your loved one in such a hands on way. God bless you. I can imagine what you experienced. I cannot imagine experiencing this myself.

Rhonda, I can totally relate to you being haunted by the death of your friend and her mother. When my husband was killed in a motorcycle accident, I thought I would never be able to drive by the spot where his accident took place or the Mortuary where his wake took place. His funeral was in the Parish where my children were raised. It never left my mind, but became a part of my experience. It's just odd how life goes on. Weird.

I will stop now. Thanks for your thoughts.

Love to all of your here on Paul's wonderful corner!

Mary

MaryS
Thanks so much for the comments and support. It helps to know that although one's experience through grief is personal, it is also shared. I will pray for you and your family. I hope you find a peace for yourself and her during what is sure to be an unforgiving ordeal.

Jill
You are one of those people that I would call a "saint." I don't believe that I could have been as brave as you. I hope for peace for you also in coping with this past. I would surely say that you honor yourself and him by helping him in such a way.

On a lighter note....be sure to hunt down the movie.

Mary, I hope for the best possible outcome for your sister, with cancer it is always so very frightening; we all felt so powerless when my brother-in-law was diagnosed. It meant so much to my family when we heard that people were praying for us and I will be praying for you. I hope your sister stays strong in spirit and body. And, thank you for the welcome!
Rhonda, thank you so much for the compliment. I have never shared these guilt feelings about his death with anyone. He was the brave one, though.
I have never been a blogger before-what great support you can find from people all over the world...
Thank you, and thank you Paul for having this site! I can't wait to hear more from you and everyone.
Jill

Thanks so much Jill. I really appreciate the good thoughts and prayers. I do believe they have enormous effects.

Mary

Rhonda, Jill and MaryS--special thoughts to you all!

Everyone sharing here at PC sure touches the heart.

Melody

Has it really been about two weeks since anyone has written or is my site broken?

I hope everyone is well.

Nothing much new here. Long weekend for Labor Day.

Cheers

It's my brain. lol. I guess I meant since a new post from Paul.....

I guess I'll give you a break Paul, since we just just entered a new month!